Love, Loss, and Healing with Cedric Vincent

#TheLITEBreakfast talks to Cedric Vincent who last his wife due to breast cancer on October 2024.

Transcript

00:00We've been talking about the relationship that you've had, this amazing relationship that you

00:03had with Navi, your wife. Right. How close to the end did you find out that she was not

00:11going to make it? If I'm being honest, right up till the end. Wow. You know, I was with her the

00:23day that she passed in the morning and I was in the car park when I received a call that

00:30I had to come up to the ICU. In the ICU, there's this thing called Code Blue. Code Blue is

00:37when they try to resuscitate the patient. Yeah. And, you know, of course, that memory lives

00:42on replay, right? I just gone out for a bit and I was going to come back as usual. I was

00:49in the hospital almost every day. I tried to be there as much as I could. And so,

00:53I would run errands in between when nurses were changing her. Yeah. And I think doctors

01:00knew that I was a bit delusional. But the doctors... With hoping against hope. Yeah. Because I've

01:07seen her pull through. I've really seen her pull through. And I think sometimes when doctors

01:11thought that it was going to be the end as well, and then she pulled through. She pulled

01:15them wrong. And yeah. And that's Navi, you know. Navi never gave you hope that it was going

01:20to be the end. Yeah. And the thing I'm glad about her that I always want to try to live

01:25is that I hope I live a life like her where I fight till the end. Because, you know, even

01:31till the last few hours, I thought that, you know, things were going to turn around. Right.

01:36So... And I'm sure she appreciated having someone like you in her corner who was always, like,

01:43championing her. Even to the very end, you were, like, championing the fact that she could

01:47still could possibly turn things around. Right. And then she passed away last October.

01:53We've been speaking about her a lot. Yeah. How have you been doing since she passed?

02:03It's definitely a struggle. You know, experiencing grief is definitely a struggle. There's a lot to

02:07talk about grief. Yeah. What I'm trying to do right now is heal in the right way. And so when

02:14sometimes someone looks at me and say, oh, I think he might be doing well. But what I tend to move

02:21forward is that when Navi passed on, I joined a community of widow widowers. Oh, that's amazing.

02:29Yeah. Yeah. There's an online community. There are a lot of communities for them as well. Yeah.

02:33I seeked a grief counselor. And most importantly, I had support around me. Yeah. You know, to keep me

02:40on my feet. Because I told myself that I know Navi wouldn't want me to be crying in the corner. Right.

02:46Right. And I will probably need to be, you know, I got to pick myself up and cry forward.

02:52Right. You know, I got to cry forward. Cry forward. Right. I'm not afraid to say that I cry. Yeah. And it's

02:58okay. It's completely acceptable and it's completely understandable. But cry forward. Cry forward. Yeah.

03:04Because, you know, sadly, you are alone in this world. You know, you can have everybody around you,

03:09but you've got to deal with yourself and your thoughts. Right. And when you are with a partner

03:14like Navi, it is as if you have lost not just one limb, you've lost half of you. Wow. You know.

03:19I cannot do this. Yeah. And it's so difficult, right? And like I said earlier, you know, her silence

03:26is all out. Wow.