“I threw a ‘solo wedding’ to end my PhD - I’m going to throw one every year" - video Dailymotion

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A doctor who spent £6k on a 'solo wedding' to mark the end of her PhD says she wants to throw one every year - just to celebrate life.  Dr. Aileen Delaney, 28, from Birmingham, UK, threw the extravagant bash for 130 guests in January 2024.

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00:35Why are we conditioned to think weddings and babies are the only achievements we can celebrate

00:39or are worthy celebrating in our life? Because it's not.

00:42It's not what we are made for and what we are worthy of.

00:45We are made of many achievements in our life.

00:48Some more than that, bigger than them.

00:51Some of us may never achieve them and why is that the benchmark?

00:53Celebrate your achievements.

00:55If you've spent your whole life, your whole education working to get your dream job,

01:00that is a big celebration.

01:02Celebrate it. You deserve it.

01:04And there's so many other things that we do in our life that are worthy of celebration.

01:08Big celebration.

01:09Celebrate however big or small you want to do but just don't wait around for it.

01:13Celebrate yourself as well.

01:14Don't wait for someone to celebrate you.

01:17We need to make the most of it and experience the joy as we are living

01:20and not just in a eulogy when we're dead of all the things we've achieved.

01:24Celebrate with me now.

01:25So yeah, I threw myself a wedding scale party to finish my PhD.

01:28Because why not?

01:29One, who's going to stop me?

01:30Two, no one was going to throw it for me.

01:32And three, I deserved it.

01:34And everyone loved it.

01:36It's so nice to be at a crazy event that isn't a wedding.

01:39It was fun.

01:40Everyone loved it and now people want more.

01:43So just do it.

01:44It doesn't have to be that crazy.

01:46It can be bigger. It can be smaller.

01:47Just celebrate your achievements.

01:49Make it known.

01:50You don't have to wait around.

01:52Do it. You deserve it.

01:54Now this is what I'm talking about.

01:55We are all on the same page here.

01:57Last week I finished my PhD and I threw myself a wedding to celebrate.

02:01And now I need a honeymoon.

02:03A PhD moon.

02:04Yes.

02:05I've been stressed for my entire PhD and particularly the last year I have been non-stop.

02:11Working full time, writing my PhD in the evening.

02:14It's been stressful and I've just not had a break at all.

02:17So I am just in dire need of a break.

02:19My body is like, be horizontal.

02:21Just don't think about anything.

02:22So that's what I need.

02:24As much as I would love a really luxurious, lovely holiday.

02:27I just don't think I can afford it.

02:29So if anyone wants to give me a lovely holiday, that would be fantastic.

02:33However, I think I am going to just book a holiday maybe within the next month.

02:37A long weekend, four or five days where I can just be horizontal.

02:42Not talk to anyone.

02:44Sit with a drink in hand and a book.

02:46By a pool or on the beach.

02:48And just not move.

02:50That is exactly what I need.

02:52It'll probably be a solo holiday too.

02:54I'll go on my own, which I don't mind and I do actually love.

02:57And I'll show you how to have a fabulous solo holiday.

03:01Because I know people are a bit anxious.

03:02But my body is craving it now.

03:04I'm like, I've got a few days holiday to take at work.

03:06And I'm like, I have to.

03:08So I'm going to try and find a budget holiday.

03:11Somewhere close, sunny, basic and decent.

03:15Although there's a level of basic I go if I go solo travelling.

03:18I feel like I still need to be somewhere I feel quite safe.

03:21It's a key thing when you're a woman solo traveller.

03:24But generally it seems to be pretty fine.

03:27But I need a holiday so badly.

“I threw a ‘solo wedding’ to end my PhD - I’m going to throw one every year"

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