Hilary Duff Says People Lie About the Difficulties of Going From 2 to 3 Kids

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00:00What would you say is the most shocking thing about going from three to four kids?

00:03The most shocking thing? Well, people lied to me and said that, like, when you get to three,

00:09it's like once you get past two, like, oh, three is easy. No. Three set me for, like, a loop. Like,

00:14I could not get my feet to touch the ground. It felt like for a solid year after three.

00:21Also, I think obsessed. I'm obsessed with Maymay. She is a wild woman to the max,

00:28but she has her own ideas, and she's not, like, I thought that by the time you, like,

00:31tack on three, they're just like, oh, yeah, we just do what the family does, and, like, we're easy.

00:36No. Three for a loop.

00:40Here's the deal. Like, I'm going to run everything, and that is my personality.

00:48And then, you know, we obviously liked her enough to go for number four and, like, felt like there

00:53was space, and I'm not sure there is, but we're figuring it out, but I'm not sure there's been,

00:59like, a key ingredient of how to do it. I think sometimes, like, some of the kids' needs don't

01:06get met right away, and that's actually been really great for our house as, like, a learning

01:10experience to just be, like, you have to wait or that's not going to happen today or, you know,

01:16figure it out, you know, and, like, actually taken me having four kids to realize that, like,

01:22I can't control everybody's happiness, and I can't be, like, constantly the cruise director

01:29of everything. Like, I try my hardest, but, like, it's been a really nice practice to just, like,

01:35say no a little bit more, and that's taken, like, making four humans.

01:41Right. I was going to say, and that probably takes the pressure off yourself as well,

01:44I would imagine, because you're always looking to please everybody, and when you come to the

01:48realization that, like, you just, there's only so many hours in the day, and you just can't get

01:52everything done, and I'm sure it, like, makes, like... No, I can't be with you right now. Why

01:56not? Actually, I don't want to. Mommy needs to have a minute. Like, you know what I mean? Like,

01:59everything's for you guys. Yes, everything. I need a second to myself. I get it. I totally get it.

02:06I feel better when I have, like, a little bit of time, and I feel like I matter, and now I'm

02:12finally, like, Talon's is seven months old, and I, like, I dropped, I actually didn't even,

02:17I dropped one kid off at school today, and I went and played pickleball before this, and I'm, like,

02:22hanging out with Townes, but, like, I hang out with her a lot, and, like,

02:26I want to go do this with my friends, and it's so good for me.