Ananya Panday on red flags in a relationship

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"I would want my partner to accept me as that." Ananya Panday opened up about her relationships in this interview.  📹: Raj Shamani

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00:00I don't like people who can't commit. I would say the idea of romance is someone who listens to me.

00:05I think like people who like act a certain way with you in private, but then in public, they don't act the same way.

00:10I think that's also not nice.

00:14Have you ever been in any relationship where you've compromised yourself?

00:17We all have, no? A little bit been in those kind of relationships.

00:19You talk about you, no? But what do you mean everyone?

00:21I'm sure. I mean, I've seen around that, you know, people have been and even I've been in a relationship.

00:25I have been in a relationship. I'm sure. Well, I have changed myself a lot, but not to the point that so much bad has happened.

00:33You know, I've realized that maybe I'm not being myself. So this isn't the best situation for me.

00:38Then what have you changed about yourself when you were and then the hindsight now you realize?

00:41Maybe I'm like, I'll pretend like I want to watch this movie as small as possible.

00:48And I only do what my partner likes in terms of, I'll only eat this kind of food.

00:53I'll only go to these kinds of places. I won't go out as much because my partner likes staying at home.

00:57So things like that.

00:59You've done that?

00:59I've done that. But now I wouldn't. And I would want my partner to accept me as that.

01:04And I would accept my partner for whatever they are.

01:06I would say the idea of romance is someone who listens to me.

01:09Like if I had said something that, you know, I like this a lot, as small as I saw a bracelet.

01:17And two months later, my partner's like, Oh, I remember that you liked this, so I got it for you.

01:22Or like, for example, I'm saying something that this happened in my day.

01:25And then they remember and they listen and they're like,

01:26It was good about this meeting. What happened? What happened with that?

01:31Remembering small, small things is very important. And just listening.

01:34You know, sometimes I don't always need a solution.

01:37Sometimes I just need my partner to listen to me.

01:40And you stick by what you said you would.

01:43Yeah. Yeah. That's how you win trust.

01:45Yeah. Just by being honest.

01:46Even if you make a mistake, but you're honest about it.

01:48For me, that's important.

01:50You know, I don't want to find out something and not feel nice.

01:53I think just honesty for me is also very important.

01:56Like what do you think are the three red flags in a man?

01:58Gaslighting, I would say. Disloyalty.

02:00And not even just in terms of like the big things, but even smaller things like just like

02:06not acknowledging your partner in public.

02:08Like I'm not saying that's cheating or something, but just not giving them that respect.

02:13So like disloyalty and disrespect.

02:16And another red flag would be ego.

02:23Like not being able to see your partner succeed.

02:25To find someone who can accept you for this job or you're in this public life and you're just like

02:31out there so much and you're...

02:34Their ego comes in.

02:35Yeah. And like they may not be able to see their partner like, you know...

02:39Bigger than them.

02:40Bigger than them.

02:41And it doesn't necessarily have to be bigger than them.

02:43And they could be excelling like in their own way or in their field and what they do.

02:48But our lives are just so hyped up and so public.

02:50Like everything just seems so much bigger.

02:52I don't like people who can't commit.

02:54And also I think like people who like act a certain way with you in private, but then in public,

02:59they don't act the same way.

03:00I think that's also not nice.

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