Sania Mirza on battling mom guilt

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“Mom guilt is so real.” She was at the top of her game when she embraced motherhood. Tennis star Sania Mirza talked about the joys and challenges of being a mom.  : Humans of Bombay

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00:00Mom guilt is so real. I mean you can be the most successful person in the world

00:08but sometimes you feel like s**t because you're just I don't know if you're

00:12allowed to say this on this but sometimes you feel like crap because as

00:18women in general we want to be a hundred everywhere yeah we're very self-critical

00:25and we analyze ourselves and we are the ones to actually be like oh my god I was

00:31not here and I didn't make it to this and I didn't do this properly and I

00:35didn't do that properly

00:40when I decided to have a baby people thought I was mad because they were like

00:44at the peak of a career you know you're having a baby it's a little bit like how

00:47Alia is being asked like you know having a baby at the peak of your career but

00:51the thing was even at that point I was like no I think the time's right so I

00:55am very much of an opinion of my life that my life has to be according to me

01:00whether that's good bad right decisions wrong decisions it needs to be taken by

01:04me and needs to be in my control and when I had the baby I didn't announce

01:11retirement because I knew that I had still you know some tennis left in me at

01:15the highest level did you ever feel the the mom guilt like you mentioned now

01:19yeah but back then when you were still actively playing traveling you would

01:24travel with you he was traveling with me but mom guilt is so real I mean I

01:29don't know are you a mom no no you're not even married okay you'll know if you

01:33want to ever become a mom how real it is I mean you can be the most successful

01:40person in the world but sometimes you feel like shit because you're just I

01:46don't know if you're allowed to say this on this but sometimes you feel like

01:50crap because as women in general we want to be a hundred everywhere yeah

01:58we're very self-critical and we analyze ourselves and we are the ones to

02:04actually be like oh my god I was not here and I didn't make it to this and I

02:08didn't do this properly and I didn't do that properly I mean how should you know

02:12and mom's guilt is really real and we have God knows we have enough people

02:17around us telling us how guilty we should be feeling all the time right we

02:21have all the aunties and uncles of the world telling us

02:25that you left me with my grandma again, why did you leave me, how did you leave me, you made her travel so much

02:32whatever I mean so but mom's guilt comes from within you know because your love

02:39that you have and the time you want to spend with the child is just it's from

02:43yourself nobody needs to tell you that sometimes I'm like is this really all

02:47worth it like should I be working and leaving him but the thing is you know

02:50what if I don't work I'm gonna go mad and I'm there of no use to anybody

02:58not to my child either you know so I think that loving being a mother is

03:05something that I love it's something that is the greatest joy that I've ever

03:10felt but that's not my only identity and I think women need to embrace that

03:17and be fearless to say that it does not make you selfish it does not make you a

03:20bad person for choosing yourself yeah you know once in a while because God

03:26knows we choose others over us all the time most of the time so that's why I think

03:32that it's very important for me you know for us to all speak out and say that as

03:37women yes we might be a wife we might be a daughter or a mother but those are not

03:44our identities

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