He's a self-aware narcissist

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He's a self-aware, diagnosed narcissist ... And he's giving people an inside look into how narcissists think and behave.  Thanks to Lee Hammock, Mental Healness.

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00:00I'm a narcissist. I actually have narcissistic personality disorder.

00:02Here are a few things that a narcissist will say to you

00:05that sounds like apologies, but they are not apologies.

00:21I get a high from helping people.

00:23Surprise! The narcissist is like helping people, you know.

00:25So, I love it.

00:26I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder

00:28and in psychotherapy since October of 2017 for a pattern of,

00:32you know, actually hurting people around them like gaslighting,

00:35manipulating, lying, some a lot of times cheating, you know,

00:39stealing, you know, lack of accountability, very, you know,

00:43a lack of empathy and things of that nature like that,

00:46you know, just toxic behaviors.

00:58I have a lack of empathy means I don't have enough to go around

01:06for everybody else.

01:07I have feelings in for my own self that care about myself,

01:10you know, but for everybody else is limited.

01:14I remember nine years old, ten years old, always kind of feeling,

01:17you know, different.

01:19Like I always feel like I never fit into crowds.

01:22I would take people's behavior traits, start acting like them,

01:25mirroring back the things that they liked about themselves and

01:28the things that I like about them as well and just becoming

01:31somebody else. Their behavior kind of transition to my adulthood.

01:36Well, all my relationships were ending the same way.

01:38I would just get disinterested in a person almost instantaneously

01:42overnight when I'll be I'll be madly in love with the person

01:44and one day I'll wake up and not care about that person anymore.

01:47I'll be like, what am I doing with this person? In 2017, me and

01:49my wife got into a huge argument, y'all.

01:51She called me a narcissist on the way out of the door.

01:53She left. My wife didn't do anything magical to make me go to

01:57therapy. She didn't force me to go to therapy.

01:59She took my son and she packed herself up and she dipped out.

02:02She called me a narcissist and I got curious.

02:03I'm like, I called her a narcissist, but when she left and took

02:06my son and whatnot, I looked it up and then it kind of just

02:09opened the book of narcissism for me, so to speak.

02:24A lot of times narcissists themselves are victims of their

02:28upbringing, you know, and they take that victimhood into adulthood

02:32and start hurting people because of it.

02:34A lot of people think narcissists are just born narcissists and

02:36they've been hurting people since birth.

02:37Could there be a genetic component to it?

02:39Yeah, I've seen some studies and stuff like that, but typically

02:41it's created through childhood trauma and entitlement and things

02:43like that.

02:44Some people add in the spiritual component like narcissists are

02:47just demons raised up from by the devil to attack people and

02:50things like that as well.

02:52The Jezebel in the flesh is what I've been called on YouTube.

03:06So look, I got you.

03:07I got you on video camera like lying to me and cheating.

03:10I have the proof.

03:10I just need you to admit it.

03:12I'm just trying to figure out why you felt the need to record

03:14me. You really have some trust issues and they're going to

03:17destroy us.

03:18I have trust issues because you give me trust issues because

03:20you always gaslighting and confusing me and making me make me

03:23question everything.

03:24No, you don't have trust issues with me.

03:26You have trust issues with yourself.

03:27One of the main things the narcissist do is exhaustion.

03:30They will just exhaust you into giving into what they are what

03:34they're demanding for you or give it into their point of view

03:38or giving into forgiving them or give it into agreeing to

03:42disagree.

03:43They'll just keep going and going and going, you know, another

03:45tactic.

03:45A lot of people, you know, you know, the silent treatment,

03:48whatever, just go quiet on you.

03:49The narcissist absolutely hate accountability being held accountable

03:52for anything that they have done to you.

03:54Narcissistic people hate being told that they are wrong about

03:57you know, they hate narcissists hate criticism.

04:01If it's not praise, it's criticism as far as tips that I can

04:05offer people on communicate with a narcissist.

04:07Don't argue the truth.

04:09Of course, of course be as safe as possible.

04:11You know, the person that you're dealing with more than I know

04:14the person that you're dealing with say your piece, you know,

04:17say your piece know your truth and stand in it.

04:48I've talked to so many people like elderly people in a 60s and

04:5170s that the word narcissist they heard it two weeks ago and

04:56it helped bring them closure from their husband who passed

04:59away 10 years ago.

05:00If you're dealing with somebody who is similar to me who

05:03expresses similar traits as me, you don't necessarily have to

05:07be with this person.

05:08You're not walking away from somebody else.

05:10You're walking towards better for you.

05:12You can you don't have to hate the person to leave them alone.

05:15You can love them from a distance.

05:16I work on myself to be a better version of myself and guess

05:19what the trickle-down effect helps my family live a better

05:23existence because I'm working on myself.

05:24They can be happier.

05:25The ultimate goal is just honestly to be the best version

05:29of myself to show the world that just because you are in therapy

05:33is not the end of the world and you don't have to hurt the

05:36world because you're hurting internally.

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