Jackie Castillejos, ayaw daw sa clingy na lalaki! | SiS - video Dailymotion

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Ekis daw sa nag-iisang Jackie Castillejos ang mga asawang nagiging co-dependent, kaya goodbye sa mga clingy boys!

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00:00I hang out with a lot of my small close girlfriends and I'm Spanish I'm very

00:10touchy and sometimes I'm misunderstood and I have a little muscle and I'm

00:14flat-chested and so sometimes they tend to think that I'm loose and sometimes I'm not.

00:25Do you also believe that independent women sometimes find it harder to love, to find somebody to love?

00:40Amen to that.

00:41Because you know what you deserve.

00:43You know what you deserve.

00:53The reason that we grow up is that we learn from these mistakes.

00:59We're going to talk for a long time about LALAS.

01:03I'm excited!

01:06You just broke up? You're with somebody?

01:08I'm with someone.

01:09I'm alone by choice.

01:11I'm attached by choice.

01:12I'm happily single.

01:14That's what you call single blessedness.

01:17Yes.

01:18Pinky is the only one I have.

01:20She's the only one who said it today.

01:23How's your love life?

01:26Very happy.

01:27Do you live together or not?

01:29At the moment, yes.

01:31Because I haven't made my own unit yet.

01:33Justified?

01:34Yes.

01:35If it's just us, we should be looking for a place together.

01:39But no, I chose this place on my own.

01:42Still?

01:43Yes.

01:46It's my only assurance.

01:50It's my only insurance of myself.

01:52How do you balance that?

01:53Insurance and assurance.

01:54If something happens, I'm still okay.

01:58How do you balance being independent and having a boyfriend?

02:01Because it's confusing when there's a guy.

02:04It's confusing when there's a guy in your life.

02:07He's lucky because he's kind.

02:09He has a broad mind.

02:11Maybe.

02:12It's true because he didn't grow up here.

02:14Not meaning to say that guys who grew up here don't have a broad mind.

02:17He has a broad mind.

02:19He grew up here.

02:21He's a married man.

02:23He grew up there.

02:25I give him credit because it's hard to be with someone as strong-willed

02:29and as opinionated as a Pinky Amadori.

02:32Exactly.

02:33It takes a lot of...

02:35You should get married, darling.

02:39He's a macho man.

02:41He's a macho man.

02:42He's a real man.

02:43Exactly.

02:44It's possible to be independent even if you have a husband, boyfriend,

02:49even if you're divorced, even if you're separated.

02:53It's still possible.

02:54It's hard.

02:56The problem would be if you become codependent, God forbid,

03:00because then you're clingy, you're like,

03:03You know, like you just stick to him.

03:05Everything, you know, you're nothing.

03:07Apparently, that would turn him off.

03:09Who likes Kulang with no one?

03:11It's a good thing I stopped being Kulang.

03:13Okay.

03:21Go, girl.

03:22Jaraice is officially not a Kulang.

03:25Yay!

03:27Okay.

03:28I hate you, Ram.

03:29I hate you.

03:30You're a waste.

03:31You're a waste.

03:32Because it's true, right?

03:33After all, you've been single for such a long time.

03:35Okay.

03:36You're a waste.

03:37You're a waste.

03:38You're a waste, too.

03:39You're a waste.

03:40It's not even happening.

03:41So...

03:42She's a waste.

03:43She's a waste.

03:44It's a waste to end up with the wrong guy just for the heck of it.

03:47That's a waste.

03:48It's a waste.

03:49Your life will be a waste.

03:50Right?

03:51Your children's life.

03:52Because it's better if you have someone to be with.

03:53Because you want to be with someone, it's not because you're afraid to be alone.

03:55That's what you said.

03:57Right?

03:58You want an English version?

04:00It's more...

04:01For a lot of women, it's the fear of...

04:03It's not really the fear of being alone or surviving alone.

04:06What is it?

04:07It's the fear of the word alone.

04:11Because once you're faced with something like that, you deal with it.

04:14You don't have a choice.

04:15You don't have to deal with it.

04:16It's actually the fear of freedom.

04:18Because you don't know yourself enough and you wouldn't know what to do with yourself.

04:22That's right.

04:23I think that's what it is.

04:24I think that's what it is.

04:25If you really think about it...

04:27On a spiritual level, it brings you closer to the Lord.

04:30Because you're all alone.

04:31It's like, Lord, watch over me.

04:32Because it's just you and him.

04:34Watch over me, God.

04:35Let's face it.

04:36We're brainstormed ever since we're children that the role of a woman...

04:39Absolutely.

04:40...is to bear children.

04:41Exactly.

04:42And it's a role that's high advanced.

04:43And I'm not saying that that is a bad role at all.

04:45Yes.

04:46That is a great role.

04:47But at this day and age, not everything happens at once.

04:49Except the end all and be all.

04:50It's good.

04:51It's good that it happens.

04:52If we never bear children and we never get married,

04:55please don't say we're a waste.

04:57Because I'm sure we can be as productive and as helpful to society.

05:01And reproductive.

05:02We can't.

05:03We don't have a husband.

05:04We can't reproduce.

05:05I have kids.

05:06I have kids.

05:07Exactly.

05:08What kind of man will make you give up your freedom?

05:12He hasn't been born yet.

05:14He does not exist.

05:15The man who will not take my freedom away.

05:16Yeah.

05:17That's the type of man I want.

05:19That's a good one.

05:20Exactly.

05:21Let's hear it.

05:22Let's hear it again.

05:23What about God?

05:24The man I want.

05:25She said, the man that will not give up my freedom.

05:29I want a man who will not take away my freedom.

05:33That's the man I want.

05:35That's the man I want.

05:37Are you out there?

05:38Are you watching?

05:41Are you watching, sweetie?

05:43Do you think men will be intimidated by your strength?

05:48A lot.

05:49We're not that strong.

05:51They're just...

05:53It scares them.

05:55They're independent.

05:56It's true.

05:57They're confident.

05:58It scares them.

05:59Why?

06:00Why do you think it scares them?

06:02Because you'll overpower them easily with the nature of our job.

06:05My God, we're so nice.

06:07We never overpower our men.

06:08There's even times when you meet what they call boys.

06:12Sometimes, they invite me out for coffee or whatever because they would never ask you out.

06:19That's true.

06:20Sometimes, you may call them clueless.

06:22But you can see that they're shy.

06:26It shouldn't be that way.

06:27That's why, somehow, we have to initiate things.

06:30You give them the opportunity to get to know you.

06:32But then, they don't like that because they lose the challenge.

06:35I don't know.

06:36I'm so confused.

06:37Well, the reason being, it's a challenge.

06:40They're not the wimps.

06:44Let's do an episode.

06:45Let's do an episode.

06:46Let's do an episode.

06:47Don't call them.

06:48Don't call them.

06:49Jana, forget about the cell phone number.

06:52Remove the charger.

06:53Remove the charger.

06:54Actually, we're strong from the outside.

06:57But we're actually very giving, I have to admit.

07:00I'm also a pussycat somewhere in there.

07:03No, men think they know us.

07:05They only think that.

07:06Yeah.

07:07They wish they knew us.

07:08I mean, God kill me.

07:09If I have a spine, that's a good thing.

07:11You know, that you have a backbone.

07:13That you have opinions.

07:14That's great.

07:15Some men even have balls, right?

07:17Yeah, they don't have it.

07:18Some are older.

07:19They don't have it physically.

07:21The apron strings of their mother, right?

07:23Mothers' boys.

07:24There's an extra one, right?

07:27Filipino women really tend to baby their men.

07:31That's a bad thing.

07:33Sometimes, you lose yourself.

07:36That's right.

07:37And they feel sorry for the woman they know.

07:39Why do I feel sorry for them?

07:41I also had an episode like that, Janice.

07:44Don't worry.

07:45One thing that every independent woman should know about men.

07:54What women should know about men.

07:59One thing that we should know about men.

08:02That will help us through all our relationships.

08:05I will say one thing which I have learned through the years.

08:10When a man says, I love you.

08:14He wants to have sex with you.

08:17Now, this is what I learned.

08:19You have to take time.

08:21Because you want to make sure it's not just that.

08:24Because it's normally that, baby.

08:26You know what I'm saying?

08:28It looks like you know what you're saying.

08:32I'm serious.

08:33They will say, I love you, at that moment.

08:36Because they want to have sex with you.

08:38And I want to tell the women out there this.

08:40Don't get too excited if he says, I love you, right away.

08:43Check him out.

08:45Make sure.

08:46Feel the water.

08:47That's easy.

08:48How about you?

08:49Don't.

08:50There are a lot of handsome men.

08:53It should be a different episode.

08:54Don't let them run your life.

08:56That's right.

08:57They are deceiving men.

08:59They only want one thing.

09:01I noticed something with Filipinos.

09:04They don't want to be controlled.

09:08You have to give them the muscle control.

09:11The feeling.

09:12The feeling of being in control.

09:14Don't teach them that, Pinky.

09:16That's the muscle of a man.

09:18How good.

09:19You said something else.

09:21Georgina, how about you?

09:24Me?

09:25I'm fine.

09:26I just broke up.

09:27I just broke up.

09:29I'm happy.

09:31We're okay.

09:32We're friends.

09:33But the thing that I've learned.

09:37I lost my disposition for almost four years.

09:41That's what everybody's telling me.

09:43I dumped my friends.

09:45I dumped everybody.

09:46I forgot everything.

09:47You have to go through that.

09:49To learn.

09:50But now I'm back.

09:52I can say.

09:53Don't lose yourself.

09:55Can you speak for us women?

09:56That I think that there is fulfillment beyond men.

10:02There is.

10:03And you know what, me?

10:04Do not look to men for your happiness.

10:07You enrich your soul on your own.

10:10And then, you find the men.

10:12They will even come to you.

10:14You will not come to me right now.

10:16Eventually, they will.

10:18Especially if they're going to be single forever.

10:20You'll just stay there.

10:22Sis, why do you think it's scarce?

10:24Sometimes, I feel ashamed to let them go out for coffee or whatever.

10:29Because they would never ask you out.

10:31That's true.

10:32Sometimes, you make them feel clueless.

10:34But no.

10:35You can see that they're ashamed of you.

10:37Intimidated.

10:38When it shouldn't be that way.

10:49Let's ask our guests of Independent Women.

10:53Let's start with Dali.

10:54What are you asking?

10:55What are you asking?

10:57At this point, there's nothing that I can ask.

10:59Maybe a husband.

11:00But it's not really a priority.

11:02I've been married once.

11:03So, it's better to be alone.

11:06Loner.

11:08Better off alone, as the song goes.

11:10Oh, my God.

11:11Well, I would love to be married someday.

11:13Believe it or not.

11:14It doesn't…

11:15Oh, Mom.

11:16You won't be jaded because after all these years.

11:18Oh, absolutely not.

11:20No.

11:21But if not, I'm also content right now, too.

11:25Miss Pinky.

11:27I don't know.

11:30Guess one.

11:31A big, fat boy.

11:35Okay.

11:36A big, fat boy.

11:37Marriage plans?

11:39We're still talking about it.

11:40But we're still preparing for that.

11:41But you're ready.

11:43We're still preparing.

11:45Emotionally.

11:46Emotionally.

11:47Of course.

11:48But emotions is the easiest part.

11:52Really?

11:53Of course.

11:54That's the easiest part.

11:55What about giving up your independence?

11:57Because you will still be independent.

12:01That's an issue.

12:03I don't know where I'm going to live.

12:07No, no.

12:08If here in the Philippines.

12:09That's right.

12:10So, if not in the Philippines,

12:12for example, in another country,

12:14what am I going to do there?

12:15That's it.

12:16You're an international star.

12:18No.

12:19No, nothing.

12:20Like Pinky, you would have to quit your career.

12:22That's part of the preparation.

12:24That's part of the issue.

12:25That's it.

12:26That's it.

12:27That's why those issues need to be solved first.

12:31More work and more boys to come.

12:35Yes, girl!

12:38Do you feel growing old alone?

12:40Pardon me?

12:41Growing old alone?

12:42If I fear?

12:43Yes.

12:44Because it's not good for you, right?

12:46You know?

12:47What if?

12:48I'm not saying that that's what's going to happen.

12:51But what if?

12:52Well, me, I fear that, to be honest.

12:54Because if you don't have children,

12:56which, you know, I'm a bit worried, right?

12:58No children, no husband.

13:00You're really alone.

13:01Because your parents are a lot older.

13:03I'm the eldest girl.

13:04That's right.

13:05So, I'm thinking, I'm just praying to God,

13:07if He's meant for me to be alone,

13:09just to take me before I lose control of my bowels.

13:14No, at least I don't burden anybody.

13:16Right?

13:17Because it's embarrassing.

13:18And you're also having a hard time.

13:20That's right.

13:21So, I'm just praying to God,

13:22if you want me to be alone,

13:23before I lose control of my bowels,

13:25let me check on you.

13:26Just a while ago,

13:27you had your bowels,

13:28what's with you, girl?

13:30No, I'm just being honest.

13:31Oh, it's a jockey.

13:32Is it true that you get frustrated

13:35with the way the industry treats matured actresses?

13:39Is that true?

13:40You, you too, right?

13:42It's a global problem.

13:45I think aging actresses get very little work

13:48as compared to aging actors,

13:50men actors.

13:52Well, I think that could also be a problem here in the Philippines

13:54because here,

13:57there are very few female actors.

14:00But mostly, in the storylines,

14:02unlike in other countries,

14:04you have people like Gordy Weaver,

14:06he's been in Alien 3 for a few years now.

14:07Alien 3?

14:08Yes.

14:09But you know,

14:10they've been in it for a long time.

14:12It's only now,

14:13because they are forming their own production companies,

14:15they are directing the women themselves,

14:17writing stories.

14:18But ever since,

14:19I mean,

14:20older women actresses abroad

14:21have still had a longer lifespan.

14:23As compared to you.

14:24This is not that long.

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