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00:00The question is from Mr. Shankar from Chirchillapalli, Namaskaram Sadhguru.

00:14My wife is a wonderful woman, but she has a shark tongue.

00:18Sometimes I am afraid even to go home.

00:21Why are some women made like this?

00:23They are wonderful on one level, but quite terrifying on another level.

00:26Please throw some light.

00:32Light is coming up.

00:37Well, because… because generally… generally I'm saying, because some women will argue

00:50about this, generally women have less muscular strength than a man.

01:00When situations go a little out of control, man wants to use his hands because that's

01:06all he's got.

01:09So a woman right from her young age, she sharpens her tongue because she knows her muscles are

01:14not as big and strong as a man's muscles.

01:19So her tongue is maybe way sharper than yours.

01:22You can't wag it like it… like her.

01:26Generally this could be true for most people.

01:31So it's not just a sharp tongue.

01:48You know, in India, you're from Tiruchirappalli, I think Navaratri is close by.

01:57It's all about the devis or the goddesses in India, except a few who are very civilized

02:04kind.

02:05Rest of them, you heard of them, Rakini, Dhakini, Lankini, Chinnamasta, Chandi, Kali, Bhairavi,

02:16you've heard of all of them.

02:19Ooh, these are terrifying women, usually tongue hanging out, you've seen.

02:30Blood dripping sometimes from their mouths because they'll bite off your head.

02:39But we made such woman worship worthy in our country because of some other quality

02:48that they have.

02:49Like your wife, she's a wonderful woman, tch, tch, tch.

02:55Wonderful on one level, but quite terrifying on another level, tch, tch.

03:02So, so is Bhairavi, so is Chandi, so is Cha... so is Chamundi, so is Kali, so is Chinnamasta,

03:11tch, many, many, many of them.

03:15They are wonderful on one level, quite terrifying on another level.

03:20So it is your skill to get the wonderfulness of their... of their quality towards you.

03:28And their terrifying quality goes towards somebody else.

03:36The wonderfulness should come for you.

03:40That is a skill you have to learn.

03:45But the whole idea of why the goddesses are like this is, for you to understand, if there

03:55is a wonderful quality, either in terms of talent or intelligence or brilliance or some

04:02genius within a person, or right now we're talking about woman.

04:11If there are such qualities in a woman that she has certain streak of genius, or she has

04:17extraordinary talents, or she's super wonderful in something, we don't want to surrender her

04:26intelligence, her brilliance, her genius, her talent, her skills at the altar of good

04:31behavior.

04:35Because you can train your puppy dog to behave well.

04:43If you want good behavior, that's why everybody these days, instead of getting married, they're

04:48getting a dog, you know.

04:51Because you can train your puppy for good behavior.

04:57So if good behavior is all you're looking for, then that's what you should settle for.

05:05But if you're looking for other possibilities, not necessarily always, but sometimes it comes

05:15with not so good behavior.

05:20Maybe sometimes with certain amount of nastiness.

05:25It depends what values you're looking for in your life.

05:30But I know you are saying, Mr. Shankar, hey, what's your second name?

05:40Pillai?

05:44Now I'm...

05:49Now I'm getting ideas.

05:57Well, if you're... if you're that one, I'm sure you're skillful enough to handle this terrifying situations.

06:10Well, but never surrender human intelligence, genius, brilliance, talent, competence at the altar of good behavior.

06:22Good behavior can be learnt, intelligence cannot be learnt, genius cannot be learnt.

06:30You have to unleash it, you cannot learn it.

06:35In the process of unleashing a significant possibility, in case, not necessarily, don't take this as a...

06:47as an endorsement of your bad behavior.

06:50I'm not saying that.

06:51If you want to have some bad behavior, you should show some extraordinary talent or brilliance or intelligence.

06:59Otherwise, you have no right to throw yourself around, even then you have no right.

07:04But never surrender significant aspects of human life in the form of intelligence, competence, brilliance,

07:19genius at the altar of good behavior, because good behavior can be learnt and it's only socially significant.

07:26It has no life significance as such.

07:31So, the wonderful wife that you have, if she's like a rose plant,

07:44she has two roses or one rose and one hundred thorns.

07:51You just have to nourish her so that there are also one hundred roses for the one hundred thorns.

08:02Well, the number of thorns for the size of the plant it is, it stays constant.

08:09But the number of flowers can be enhanced.

08:12I think that's what you should do with this wonderful wife of yours.

08:17I'm sure she's a wonderful woman, but little tongue lashing department is strong.

08:24Oh, you must find some other victim for her and you must get the wonderful part of her.

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