Behind the Looking Glass | movie | 2024 | Official Clip - video Dailymotion

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Transcript

00:00It's really, really difficult to build online support networks

00:04because we've got the constant worry that it's going to be infiltrated

00:08by our actual exes or by their supporters

00:12because they don't agree with what we're trying to do.

00:15Any vetting process is really time-consuming and not infallible.

00:21So making connections with other women is really, really difficult.

00:26We can't meet somewhere and talk about it,

00:31be open about how it is for us,

00:34how difficult it is to deal with it,

00:37because then we're considered transphobes

00:41or otherwise somehow despicable people.

00:46And that's a big problem, of course.

00:49That's why I'm glad that there are the trans widows,

00:52where women have joined forces and are against it,

00:55and raise their voices and say,

00:58Hello, we also exist.

00:59We also play a role here and we also have something to say.

01:02And we don't let ourselves be silenced here,

01:05forbid our language.

01:07That's why I'm very, very grateful to these women

01:09and I admire them very much for what they do.

01:12I was lucky enough to make friends completely by accident

01:15with another woman who had gotten a divorce

01:18from a trans-identified male who was very disturbed,

01:21much more violent.

01:22And we spent weeks just kind of unloading our stories on each other.

01:26And it's been so invaluable.

01:28Talking and connecting with people who are grounded in reality

01:32has been really helpful.

01:34It really improves my mental health and mental stability.

01:39It often feels though that our stories

01:41are just whispers in a storm.

01:43You know, it's so important to be seen by other women.

01:46It's made a huge difference to my mental health

01:48and my confidence,

01:49and it's undone a lot of the gaslighting

01:50that I was exposed to in the relationship.