It's Showtime: Dalaga, may anxious-attachment style pagdating sa pag-ibig (July 4, 2024) (Part 3/4)
Aired (July 4, 2024): Dahil sa behavior ni Fatima ay tuluyan niyang naitulak palayo si Ace dahil sa pagiging makulit nito at paulit-ulit na paghingi ng assurance.
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00:00All right
00:30Oh
01:00Foreign
01:30Back to see you in some in Kashi
01:32but you were late
01:34I
01:36Need to do that
01:38Meo
01:40Yes
01:42Una Yamaha
01:44Meo
01:46My
01:48My
01:50My
01:52My
01:54My
01:56My brothers
01:58Una
02:00Yamaha
02:02Meo
02:04Nmax
02:06Bakla
02:08LGBT community
02:10Saman Tongan
02:12Tongan
02:14Tongan
02:16Oh
02:18Oh
02:20LGBT
02:22LGBT
02:24Don't worry
02:26Why?
02:27It's a tomboy.
02:32I didn't know that.
02:34I'm just kidding. I love you, brothers.
02:38So, what's next?
02:39How did you get the motorcycle?
02:40Where's the motorcycle?
02:41Because that motorcycle has my name on it.
02:43Oh, okay.
02:44It's with you.
02:45Whose choice was that?
02:47Because I was the one who qualified to get the motorcycle.
02:52Because I've been focusing on it for almost two years.
02:54Oh, there's an audition for that?
02:56There's a preliminary judgment?
02:58No, because he's 29 years old.
03:03The ability to pay, the credit…
03:05Credibility?
03:07Credibility. Credit, credibility.
03:09Something like that.
03:11So, it's with you.
03:12Yes.
03:13So, you decided.
03:14Then, at that time, of course, he also needed it for his work.
03:19You gave the motorcycle to him first.
03:21At that time, I agreed that he would still bring the motorcycle.
03:27Even if you're not there anymore?
03:28Even if you're not there anymore.
03:29Oh, that's too much.
03:31But you won't give it to him?
03:34But he said that it would fall.
03:38Then, my friends advised me not to agree because it has my name on it.
03:44In case he won't be able to pay, I will give it to him.
03:47Yes, that's right.
03:48That's true.
03:49Okay.
03:50Let's rewind a bit and then we'll go back to…
03:53Why did you break up?
03:55What was your problem?
03:57It was also because of the time.
04:00Because his previous work was in making pizza.
04:04And then, at that time, he came home in the afternoon.
04:10Then, at night, he was already out.
04:12Then, he transferred to a new work because in the bar, it was getting late.
04:19Then, he came home in the afternoon because it was getting late.
04:22My out time was in the afternoon.
04:24What was the effect?
04:25What was the connection of his out time with your relationship?
04:28He didn't bring me along anymore.
04:32You didn't have time for each other anymore?
04:33Yes, we didn't have time for each other anymore.
04:36If you didn't have time, who affected you?
04:41I went to a bar to see him.
04:46You really wanted to go to a bar?
04:48You really wanted to go to a bar?
04:49Yes, I really wanted to go to a bar.
04:51Then, he started to get mad at me.
04:55Really?
04:56He started to…
04:57Does he get mad when you're there?
04:59He started to get mad at me.
05:00He gets angry?
05:01Yes.
05:02Right?
05:03He gets angry?
05:04Yes, he gets angry.
05:05He gets angry.
05:06He gets angry.
05:07He said that I'm annoying.
05:08I'm annoying.
05:09Then, I felt that he doesn't like me anymore.
05:13Did you talk to him?
05:14Yes.
05:15Then, we started to fight.
05:16We started to say hurtful words.
05:20Why do you say that he's annoying?
05:21What does he do?
05:23He's annoying.
05:24Does he dance in the bar while you're on duty?
05:27No.
05:28He keeps asking me the same question.
05:30What question?
05:31What question?
05:32He keeps asking me,
05:34why don't you have time for me anymore?
05:35You still love me.
05:37What?
05:38He keeps asking me,
05:39why don't you have time for me anymore?
05:41You still love me.
05:42You still love me.
05:44You still love me.
05:45You always ask him if he still loves you.
05:48Yes.
05:49Because I don't feel that he doesn't love me anymore.
05:52I feel that he doesn't care about me anymore.
05:55He doesn't have time for you.
05:56Always.
05:57Even when he says that he still loves you,
05:59you ask him again.
06:01The last time,
06:02I asked him if he still loves me.
06:03His answer was,
06:04I don't know anymore.
06:07Why don't you know that you still love him?
06:09Yes.
06:10Why did he say that?
06:11Why did he say that?
06:12Why did he say that?
06:14What's funny is,
06:17you're tired from work,
06:19but he keeps asking you again and again.
06:22There are a lot of people like that.
06:24Sometimes,
06:27because he keeps asking you again and again,
06:29he said that the answer is for him,
06:31but he keeps asking you again and again.
06:32All he thinks about is,
06:33okay, I'll just give you the answer you want.
06:35Not the real answer.
06:37Yes.
06:38Right?
06:39Because,
06:40don't you trust what I'm saying?
06:42You want me to ask you again and again.
06:44It's like that.
06:45Yes.
06:46Again and again.
06:47You know, there's this thing called,
06:49it has something to do with the abandonment issue.
06:54There are people who have abandonment issues.
06:56Then,
06:57there's this thing called,
06:59the attachment style.
07:01For you,
07:02that's the anxious,
07:05anxious attachment style.
07:10You keep asking him again and again,
07:13so that you can have validation,
07:15and you can be reassured.
07:16Yes.
07:17Even if he told you that he loves you,
07:19you'll still ask him,
07:20do you still love me?
07:21Then,
07:22he'll say again and again.
07:23Again and again.
07:25That's the anxious attachment style.
07:29Then,
07:30there's this thing called,
07:32the separation.
07:34You want to be separated,
07:35but you don't really want to.
07:36You want to be separated,
07:37so that you can have validation,
07:38that he won't separate you.
07:40That he really loves you.
07:41Do you do that?
07:42Yes.
07:43Yes.
07:44You want to be separated,
07:45but you really want to be with him,
07:46not to be separated,
07:47but to chase him,
07:48because it will make you feel good,
07:50if he chases you.
07:52It's like that.
07:53You'll get angry,
07:55even if you're not angry,
07:57because you'll be reassured that he loves you,
07:59if he chases you.
08:02Because you're too anxious.
08:04Anxious attachment.
08:05Yes.
08:06And the other one,
08:07when it comes to him,
08:08it's like,
08:09are you asking me
08:10if I'm doing something,
08:11that's why you're asking me
08:12if I love you?
08:16Why are you like that?
08:17Because people aren't always like that.
08:19There are people who are good at it,
08:20why they have a red flag here,
08:24why they have an abandonment issue,
08:26why their attachment style is like that.
08:28Because there's also what's called
08:30the dismissive-avoidant attachment style.
08:34The dismissive-avoidant.
08:37The dismissive-avoidant is like,
08:39they like the person,
08:41but when they like someone,
08:42they set a barrier,
08:43it's up to here,
08:44because I really don't want to fall for him.
08:46You don't want to give everything.
08:47Yes.
08:48It's like,
08:49we love each other,
08:51but it's up to here.
08:54Because he doesn't want to fall,
08:56he has a fear of why he doesn't want to.
08:59He doesn't want to because he's afraid.
09:01Maybe because before,
09:02when he agreed,
09:04when he gave his heart,
09:06he was betrayed.
09:08He was fooled.
09:09That's why he doesn't want to give his true feelings.
09:11It's like,
09:12he's protecting himself,
09:13because maybe his feelings were wrong before.
09:16Why are you like that?
09:17Why do you want to reassure,
09:19always validate if he loves you,
09:22and he still loves you?
09:23At first,
09:25I broke up with him.
09:28Then he pushed me away.
09:30Then he said,
09:31let's go out,
09:32let's eat.
09:33Our relationship worked out.
09:35And then the last time,
09:37I felt like,
09:39there's nothing between us.
09:41Then I felt like,
09:43our connection is just a motorbike,
09:45maybe that's why he's staying.
09:46Then I told him,
09:48let's stop it.
09:51It's like,
09:52there's nothing we can do about it.
09:55Then,
09:56he didn't push me away.
09:59He really doesn't want to.
10:01He's just waiting for me to break up.
10:05How is that?
10:06Because he's just busy,
10:08that's why he lost his time?
10:10Or you saw something?
10:12I didn't feel that.
10:14I just felt that,
10:16he doesn't love me anymore.
10:19Because he lost his time?
10:20Because he's working at night.
10:22So,
10:23their trips are just motorbikes.
10:25They don't do it anymore.
10:27Because he's working.
10:29The equivalent to him,
10:30he doesn't have time,
10:31he doesn't love me anymore.
10:33Is that right?
10:34That's what I think.
10:35Sometimes,
10:36when we go out,
10:38he doesn't want to be with me.
10:41Because?
10:42That's what I felt.
10:43Maybe he's tired from work.
10:44Because he's tired.
10:46He's tired too.
10:51No, it's painful.
10:53But in a relationship,
10:54you really need understanding.
10:56That's it.
10:57Right?
10:58Especially,
10:59if you're husband and wife,
11:01and he's working.
11:03Imagine truck drivers,
11:05Yes.
11:06who drive so far,
11:08from Manila to Bicol,
11:10and they can't go home.
11:12Right?
11:13What if you always miss your husband?
11:17Right?
11:19It's hard to balance that.
11:21That's why you need to balance
11:23your understanding,
11:25what you can sacrifice.
11:27Aside from that,
11:28we always fight,
11:30and we say painful words.
11:33Because?
11:34Because,
11:35we often fight.
11:37What do you fight about?
11:38About his time.
11:42About his time.
11:44You can't accept that.
11:47You need to accept that time,
11:49so that you can get it back.
11:52I accept that.
11:53He's working.
11:54But I feel like,
11:57there's nothing left.
11:59I don't feel love for him anymore.
12:01It's like,
12:02I don't care anymore.
12:03Oh, I see.
12:04Because you need to get it back.
12:06Yes, I can understand
12:07that your time will be reduced.
12:09But,
12:10let's make sure that
12:12even if the time is reduced,
12:13we still have time
12:15to spend together,
12:16at least quality time.
12:18Even if the quantity is reduced,
12:20the quality,
12:22right?
12:23If you have a day off,
12:25you can get it back.
12:27Don't you get it back?
12:28Yes, but I still go to school.
12:31You still go to school 24 hours a day?
12:33In the morning,
12:34I go to school in the morning,
12:35and when I get home in the afternoon,
12:37I go straight to work.
12:39Oh, you go to school at the same time.
12:41Yes.
12:42Yes.
12:43Well,
12:44you prioritize a lot of things
12:46for your boyfriend.
12:48Which is not bad, right?
12:50It's good to see that
12:52your boyfriend continues to study,
12:55even if it's hard.
12:56Then, after school,
12:57he goes to work.
12:58But,
12:59you only have a little time.
13:01Yes.
13:02Sometimes,
13:03when I share with him,
13:06I tell him,
13:08let's do this,
13:09let's do that.
13:10Then,
13:11I open up to him,
13:12and he answers me,
13:13you're so dramatic.
13:14For me,
13:15it hurts.
13:16Yes.
13:17Ah.
13:18How can we talk properly
13:21if you're so philosophical?
13:25Ah.
13:26Then, I'm sorry.
13:29No.
13:30She's crying.
13:31That's what I'm saying.
13:32You only have a little time.
13:33It's not quality.
13:34Whenever Fatima talks to you,
13:38you treat her like that.
13:39Yes.
13:40But,
13:41the truth is,
13:42of course,
13:43you're busy.
13:44Aside from being busy,
13:46did you love Fatima back then,
13:49or did you just pass her by?
13:51I still love her.
13:52But,
13:53we've been together for a few days,
13:58and I don't enjoy fighting.
14:02I always ask her that question.
14:05We've been together for a few hours,
14:09and she's still mad at me.
14:12Ah.
14:13So,
14:14every moment,
14:15do you love me?
14:16Yes.
14:17You're so dramatic.
14:18I love you.
14:19Okay.
14:20I'm just working.
14:21But,
14:22do you love me?
14:23I told you,
14:24I love you.
14:25I'm doing this for the family.
14:26Okay.
14:27But,
14:28is that a yes or a no question?
14:30He's really mad at me.
14:32He said,
14:33this is too much.
14:34That's what I'm saying.
14:35We're reenacting.
14:36He said,
14:37this is too much.
14:38This is too much.
14:39This is the third question.
14:40This is too much.
14:41Okay,
14:42I'll sit down.
14:43I'm not holding anything.
14:47He said,
14:48he's reenacting.
14:49He's so annoying.
14:50He's annoying.
14:51Is that how it is?
14:52Is that how the question is?
14:54I don't know what you're talking about.
14:56Of course,
14:57we'll come back here tomorrow
14:59and it's still about you.
15:00Of course,
15:01we're reenacting.
15:02How many times do you ask her that question
15:04in one day?
15:05Yes.
15:06Maybe,
15:07in one day,
15:08maybe,
15:09I ask her that question 5 times.
15:12Yes.
15:135 times in one day?
15:145 times.
15:15That's only 2 times.
15:16There should be 3 times.
15:17Oh, my God.
15:18I hope you ask her that question
15:19once a week,
15:20every day.
15:21Yes.
15:22Maybe,
15:23Fatima is just being nice.
15:24And,
15:25they always say,
15:26there are words that hurt.
15:28What are the words that hurt?
15:29Nana.
15:30Sugat.
15:33Laway.
15:35Laway.
15:36It's not laway.
15:37What is it?
15:38Acid.
15:40It's so hot.
15:43I have a burnt whitehead.
15:46But, that hurts, Nana.
15:48Why do you have to insult me?
15:50I'm laughing.
15:53Sugat.
15:54That hurts.
15:55Sa lubzob na hindi makuhan ng chane.
15:57Tapilok.
15:59Butas na ngipin.
16:00Butas sa bagang na nalagyan ng bigas
16:03na hindi pa na-in-in.
16:05That hurts.
16:08Pero,
16:09ang nangyari,
16:11nakulitan na si Ace,
16:14si Fatima parang
16:15nag-give up na rin.
16:17Nag-give up na rin si Ace.
16:18Kanino napunta yung motor?
16:22Actually, yung talagang concern namin.
16:24Sa kanya po.
16:25Sa kanya po.
16:26Bakit sa'y napunta?
16:29Bakit kay Ace, Fatima?
16:31Sa kanya nakapangalan.
16:33Sabi ko,
16:34sa akin po nakapangalan.
16:36Then,
16:37pumayag po ako sa set-up namin na
16:39nung una,
16:40pumayag po ako sa set-up na
16:41hatid-sundo niya pa rin ako
16:42kahit na
16:44hiwalay na po kami.
16:45Pero, bakit kailangan hatid-sundo ka pa
16:46kung hiwalay kayo?
16:48Kasi,
16:50nag-try po ako
16:51baka po mag-workout ko.
16:52Ayun.
16:53Ginagamit mo din yung motor.
16:56Pero, hindi ko masisisi.
16:57May mga ganyan tayong
16:58ginagamit natin talaga.
16:59Kasi, hindi tayo makausad.
17:01Yes.
17:02Subok tayo ng subok
17:03hanggang sa talagang
17:04pinukul tayo ng katotohanan.
17:05Huy! Wala na talaga!
17:08Bitaw!
17:09Yun, gano'n.
17:10Alam mo, may problema rin kasi.
17:12Ano?
17:13Kasi, di siya marung mag-drive ng motor,
17:14si Fatima.
17:15So, si Ace,
17:16kailangan niya mag-drive yung...
17:17Pag napunta sa kanya si,
17:18magmamanin po.
17:19Hindi, ang daling solution rin d'yan, bo.
17:20Paano?
17:21May nabibilingan niyo yung alalay.
17:23Yung palagpa-bike ka.
17:25Bicycle.
17:26Bicycle, yung maliit na gulong.
17:29Yung bike mo, may alalay.
17:30Oo, dati.
17:31Nag-bike tayo sa Clark.
17:32Oo, yun dito.
17:33Oo, gano'n pa.
17:34Oo, ngayon.
17:35Oo, oo.
17:36So...
17:37Pero, napatunayan mo na,
17:38wala ta.
17:39Wala na rin magagawa yung motor.
17:40Wala na po talaga.
17:41Kasi,
17:42nagtanong rin po ako sa kanya,
17:43baka pwede pa.
17:45Yung iba nga,
17:46ano eh,
17:47pag may binigay,
17:48yung binabawi yung ibinigay
17:49para hindi umalis yung,
17:51hindi tuluyang mawala.
17:54Yung tinatakot,
17:55yung sa takot,
17:56naku baka bawiin niya to,
17:58naku baka kunin niya to,
17:59mahihirapan ako.
18:00Kaya, yun,
18:01yung dinadaan sa threat
18:04to keep the person
18:06para hindi makalayo.
18:07Para hindi nag-work.
18:08Manipulative.
18:09Hindi po nag-work.
18:11Then,
18:12nag-iisip po ako ng paraan,
18:14paano po ang way na may magagamit siya
18:17papasok sa trabaho.
18:19Then,
18:20ano din po yung pangalan ko
18:22sa motor.
18:24Pero parang tama yun,
18:25na dapat sayo mapunta,
18:26kasi sayo nga nakapangalan.
18:27Unless,
18:28babayaran niya yung mga binayad mo,
18:30tapos ilipat mo sa kanya yung pangalan.
18:32Kasi di ba may binayad ka doon,
18:33bukod sa pangalan mo nandodoon?
18:34I tinanong ko na din po yun
18:36sa kinohanan ko.
18:37Ang sabi po ay,
18:39dapat daw po itapusin ko muna yung
18:41three years
18:43bago po itransfer sa kanya.
18:47Hindi mo naman kukuha,
18:48kasi six months lang kayo.
18:50Lami pang taon.
18:51Dapat pinaabot mo.
18:52Three years and six months
18:53pang gugupin.
18:54Wala na ba kayong communication ngayon?
18:55Hindi na kayo nag-uusap talaga?
18:56Hindi na.
18:57You're not even friends?
18:59Ba't kayong pumayag na mag-guest dito?
19:00Panghulog?
19:01Sayang.
19:02Sayang eh.
19:04Kasi 10k din to.
19:05Alaki panghulog yun, no?
19:06Eh, 10k, 10k,
19:07dalawa sila, 20 yun.
19:08Oo.
19:09Eh, 3-2, 3-2.
19:10Oo, di ba?
19:11May panghulog na,
19:12nakakain ko pa sa labas.
19:14Pagkasama pa sila, no?
19:15Oo.
19:16Sabi niyo,
19:19ikaw din talaga,
19:20Fatima eh,
19:21kukuratin din talaga kita, Fatima.
19:22Three months din yun.
19:23Three months din, no?
19:24Hindi, 20 yun eh,
19:25dalawa sila eh.
19:27Siyempre mag-share din yung isa.
19:29Kaya nga, 3-2, 3-2.
19:31Six months.
19:32Pwede.
19:33Bali, ano na?
19:34Ha? 20?
19:35Six months nga.
19:36Congrats.
19:39Okay.
19:40Then, ang nangyari po dun,
19:41binalik ko na lang po sa kanya
19:42yung binayad niya,
19:43para makakuha naman po siya
19:44ng motor niya.
19:45Then, makapag-down siya.
19:46May motor ka na ngayon?
19:49Wala.
19:50Wala.
19:51Oo, wala.
19:52Iniipong pa ako,
19:53narito na hindi nakuhulogan.
19:55Si Lassie kasi may motor eh.
19:56Ha? Meron?
19:57Anong motor?
19:58Ha?
19:59Anong motor?
20:00Ano bang tatak ng motor mo?
20:02Singer?
20:04Pantahi yun eh.
20:05Pantahi.
20:06Pantahi yun.
20:07Malakas yun, no?
20:08Automatic na, no?
20:10Hindi ka nga lang makakarating
20:11sa pupuntahan mo.
20:13In place lang.
20:15Umuantar din naman niya.
20:16Pero malalim lang gamitin yun,
20:17basta kailangan magaling ka
20:18magkuya ako eh.
20:21So, wala.
20:22So ngayon wala na?
20:23Wala na?
20:24Naubos na rin yung pag-asa mong
20:25magkakabalikan kayo ni Ace?
20:27Wala na.
20:28Wala na po.
20:29Kasi madami na din po kami
20:30napagsabi sa isa't-isa
20:32na masakit ang salita.
20:33Ah, ikaw din nasabihan mo rin
20:34na masakit?
20:35Siya din nasabihang ka rin
20:36na masakit?
20:37Yes po.
20:38Kumbaga wala na po talaga.
20:39Ayaw mo na sa kanya totally?
20:41Nag-try naman po ako.
20:42Nagkawa ko naman na yung best ko.
20:44Kung wala talaga,
20:45hindi ko na po para
20:46ipilit yung sarili ko sa kanya.
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