Trans man donates his eggs so his sister can have a baby

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A trans man says donating his eggs so his sister can have a baby was the "easiest decision" he’s ever made - despite worrying about feeling "less of a man".

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00:00 I am super nervous right now.

00:04 I called Shizy to help calm me down but...

00:08 I can't believe I'm doing this.

00:13 We're here now.

00:15 I think I'm going to have to come out.

00:17 I'm transgender and I'm harvesting my eggs for my sister.

00:20 You all had questions, so let's answer them.

00:22 Why didn't I harvest my eggs before I transitioned?

00:25 Before I medically transitioned, I was experiencing intense gender dysphoria.

00:30 And so for me, alleviating that became urgent and more important than the idea of having a biological child someday in the future.

00:37 That was the right decision for me and I'm really glad that I did it that way.

00:40 Because had I went into a process that was going to make me more aware of my body at that point in time, it would have broke me.

00:48 Have I become dysphoric as parts of my body that are associated with being female are focused on?

00:53 No. No.

00:57 I think that's a testament to my growth.

01:00 I am totally comfortable in the body that I'm in.

01:03 And the fact that some people will see me as biologically female, that doesn't really bother me.

01:08 At the end of the day, I know who I am and I'm confident in the skin I'm in.

01:11 Did I have to come off testosterone?

01:13 Also no.

01:14 I haven't stopped my testosterone, but I have reduced it.

01:17 I was taking three and a half pumps daily and I dropped down to one a day.

01:20 Did being on testosterone affect my egg count?

01:23 Yes, it did. But in a good way.

01:26 I actually spoke to my doctor about this on our consultation call.

01:29 Obviously, there's little to no research on trans men going through this process.

01:33 So instead, they use the statistics based on cis women who had high levels of testosterone in their body.

01:39 What the research said is that cis women who had high levels of testosterone tend to have more eggs in their egg reserve.

01:45 So actually, being on testosterone has potentially benefited me in this situation.

01:50 Is there anything in this process that surprised me in good or bad ways?

01:54 There's definitely two things that come to mind.

01:56 The first being that I have PCOS, which I've never been diagnosed for,

02:00 but makes sense because I always used to have really painful periods and pass out.

02:04 And the second thing is definitely how the doctors and nurses have treated me throughout this process.

02:09 I feel like my identity has been completely respected,

02:12 no matter what room I've walked into or who I've spoken to.

02:15 I don't know why I'm getting upset by that. I'm going to blame the hormones.

02:19 It's just, it's really special. It's really special.

02:24 I'm just really grateful because I was worried about that.

02:30 All right, I think we should stop there.

02:33 Thank you for watching. Bye for now.

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