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00:00 (Music)
00:13 Bismillah-e-Rahman-e-Rahim, Assalam-o-Alaikum,
00:15 I welcome you to the program, "Kaif Faqeer".
00:18 We have with us, Shahid Sarpraj Ahmed Shah Sahib,
00:22 who guides us and even today,
00:23 we will answer the questions that are in front of us.
00:28 We have a request for you,
00:30 just like many people have sent their questions today,
00:32 keep sending your questions so that we can include them in the program.
00:37 So first of all, let's go to Shah Sahib.
00:38 Assalam-o-Alaikum, Shah Sahib.
00:40 Walaikum-as-Salam.
00:40 How are you?
00:41 I am fine.
00:42 You look very fresh.
00:43 Thank you so much.
00:44 We are talking about freshness,
00:49 but the questions that many people have sent in today,
00:52 they are a little different.
00:54 Like this is the first question,
00:56 what is the relationship between happiness and sorrow?
01:00 It feels like happiness is a waqfah,
01:05 and a person has to go into sorrow.
01:07 Tell us about this as well.
01:08 And then he says,
01:09 how much of the character of happiness and sorrow is there in the world of a Sufi?
01:14 Meaning, if it is not there,
01:16 then can a Sufi not attain the status that he has?
01:20 Bismillah-e-Rahman-e-Rahim.
01:23 In your program, I have mentioned many times that
01:28 all the things that God has created are in pairs.
01:36 If there is happiness, then there is distress.
01:38 If there is distress, then there is illness.
01:43 Similarly, if there is sorrow, then there is happiness.
01:47 Or if there is happiness, then there is sorrow.
01:51 So, the life that a person goes through in this world,
01:57 it is only in these pairs that a time comes when a person is happy,
02:09 and then a few days of distress comes.
02:14 A person is happy all his life, and then suddenly, for a while,
02:20 a disease comes.
02:23 The thing that the Prophet (pbuh) wrote,
02:26 that life passes in sorrow,
02:29 but happiness comes as a waqfah.
02:33 I think, the matter is the opposite.
02:38 Things go the other way around.
02:41 A person spends most of his time in happiness,
02:45 and a few times in sorrow.
02:48 God keeps passing days between people.
02:55 So, by passing days, it means that good and bad times keep coming.
03:01 But most of the time, we are happy.
03:04 Another thing is that, we feel that the 10 years of happiness were a small amount of waqfah.
03:12 And even a year of sorrow feels longer than 10 years.
03:20 So, that is why we feel that there are many sorrows.
03:25 And, I would like to say that, as long as a person is alive,
03:35 problems will keep coming.
03:39 Peace is only given to a person in one place,
03:43 and that is death.
03:45 So, when the struggle and struggle of a person is over,
03:50 and the struggle and struggle of a person is over,
03:55 and life starts moving on a particular track,
04:00 then understand that it is not life.
04:04 Life is a process of struggle and struggle,
04:09 problems will keep coming,
04:12 and moments of happiness and sorrows will keep coming.
04:16 I have used this meaning in the meaning that,
04:21 in life, a person keeps on tasting all kinds of flavors,
04:25 so, understand that he is alive.
04:28 In this, Shah sahib, there was a part that,
04:31 in the world of Sufism, how much role does sorrow and sorrow play?
04:36 See, in the case of the poor, they consider sorrow to be more good.
04:44 The reason for this is that,
04:47 I had mentioned this in one of your programs a long time ago,
04:52 that, a person is filled with the utmost sorrow when his heart is hurt.
05:08 The more the person is hurt, the more he will turn to God.
05:17 Because a person gets shelter from God, and nowhere else.
05:24 So, the moment he is hurt, he immediately turns to God.
05:30 When everyone is hurt, he turns to God.
05:34 I had given an example that,
05:37 we want to take a good crop from the land,
05:41 so, we dig a deep well.
05:45 The deeper the well, the deeper we dig the land,
05:51 the better the seed will be.
05:56 So, the more the human heart is hurt,
06:01 the more he turns to God with the utmost sincerity and sincerity.
06:11 And, he gets closer to God.
06:18 So, this is how the poor understand sorrow to be more good.
06:25 And, in happiness, a person usually forgets God.
06:31 He starts moving away from God.
06:35 The poor do not like this.
06:38 So, in the case of the poor,
06:41 the attitude is that,
06:44 they tolerate the force of God's creation with a smile.
06:50 The reason for this is that,
06:55 when a person is being oppressed,
07:00 he has a natural response,
07:09 that he expresses his sorrow in front of people.
07:13 The dust that is accumulated inside him,
07:18 comes out of him.
07:20 It is wiped out.
07:23 But, the poor does not express his sorrow in front of anyone.
07:29 When he does not express his sorrow,
07:32 the pain remains inside him.
07:35 When a person is hurt, he screams.
07:40 That scream helps to reduce the pain.
07:46 But, when he does not scream,
07:49 the pain is suppressed.
07:54 So, the poor keeps all that inside him.
07:58 The pain of people,
08:01 the oppression of people,
08:03 the force of people,
08:05 he tolerates it silently.
08:07 The pain is suppressed in his heart.
08:10 And he bows down to his Lord with the same intensity.
08:15 The result is that,
08:17 he attains the nearness of God.
08:19 Or, in everyday language,
08:22 he quickly solves the spiritual problems.
08:26 That is why the poor call sorrow good.
08:30 Otherwise, it is not that they like sorrow.
08:33 They call sorrow good in this sense.
08:36 But, in this sense,
08:38 we do not see any difference in the conditions.
08:41 The reason for the poor's sorrow is different.
08:45 His problems are primarily related to God,
08:49 to spirituality.
08:51 And the sorrow of the common man is related to worldly things.
08:55 So, is there any difference in this sense?
08:58 No, Raghav sahib.
09:00 I may not be able to fully agree with this.
09:05 Yes.
09:06 Even if a Fakir is a human being,
09:09 his emotions are similar to that of a common man.
09:14 The difference is that,
09:16 he has controlled his ego.
09:21 Instead of the ego riding on him,
09:25 he is riding on the ego.
09:28 This is the difference in a Fakir.
09:33 Secondly,
09:36 happiness and sorrow,
09:40 happiness and sorrow,
09:43 laughter and tears,
09:46 they say that all these are the gifts of God.
09:50 So, as a human being,
09:55 everything that is given by the master,
09:59 should be accepted with humility.
10:03 This is the emotion.
10:05 Otherwise, the emotions of a common man are similar to that of a Fakir.
10:09 He controls himself and gets the reward for it.
10:12 Okay.
10:13 Please tell us,
10:16 is this sorrow,
10:20 external effects,
10:25 or does the Fakir try to attain the spiritual level himself,
10:32 so that he can keep himself in the state of sorrow?
10:36 No, he does not try to achieve it himself.
10:40 But you can say that,
10:45 the Fakir has a feeling,
10:53 that he could not worship his Lord in the way he should.
10:59 He could not serve his Lord in the way he should.
11:05 He remains in this state of sorrow,
11:09 that he could not fulfil the right that he should have fulfilled.
11:17 I have given sorrow to my master's servants.
11:26 That is why he does not give sorrow to the creation of God.
11:29 He bears all the sorrow himself.
11:32 You will not find any complaint or complaint from the Fakir.
11:38 You will never find anyone complaining,
11:41 that you did this to me,
11:43 that you did that to me.
11:47 He has understood a point,
11:53 that if we talk worldly,
11:57 that if you want to enter the heart of a mother,
11:59 then the best way is to start loving her children.
12:07 The Lord is much more merciful than a mother.
12:11 The Fakir think that the Lord is the best way to please the Lord.
12:15 That he should be merciful to his servants.
12:20 That he should not give sorrow to his servants.
12:24 Then the Lord will be pleased,
12:26 that he gives pleasure to his servants,
12:28 and not sorrow.
12:30 That is why the Fakir is very merciful to the creation of God.
12:34 He never complains about any injustice.
12:38 He is the one who bears their sorrow.
12:42 The Lord does not leave any room for sorrow.
12:47 They will be in sorrow.
12:49 They will be unjust to humans.
12:53 They bear that.
12:56 That is why they are always in pain.
13:03 That is why you will see them lost.
13:07 They do not open their mouth out of fear,
13:09 that they might slip into a complaint.
13:13 That it is very cold today.
13:21 They have a complaint.
13:26 And a complaint against a Fakir is not permissible.
13:30 They think that a complaint against a Fakir is not permissible.
13:36 You have explained it very well.
13:38 A complaint against a Fakir is not permissible.
13:42 They think that.
13:44 They are thankful to the Lord.
13:47 They do not bear sorrow.
13:50 That bearing sorrow is against human duty.
13:55 Although it is human nature.
13:59 It is in human nature.
14:02 It is human instinct.
14:05 But a Fakir never expresses his sorrow.
14:10 He does not say "Oh".
14:13 He bears everything in silence.
14:16 When he bears everything in silence,
14:20 then his heart will be filled with sorrow.
14:24 People say that a Fakir bears sorrow.
14:30 Does sorrow cause sorrow?
14:35 Yes.
14:36 Fear is the result of sorrow.
14:42 That sorrow is born in the heart.
14:45 We will have to stop here for a while.
14:48 We will come back after the break.
14:50 We will continue this discussion from here.
14:53 Welcome back.
14:54 I was remembering something.
14:56 It is not that a Fakir or a Sufi does not get a chance to celebrate.
15:03 They get a chance.
15:05 But as you said that he does not say "Oh".
15:08 Maybe he does not express his happiness in the same way as a common man does.
15:13 Maybe it was about Nizamuddin Auliya.
15:16 When he was very happy,
15:18 he used to eat dry roti dipped in water.
15:21 Although, Nizamuddin Auliya, who was considered to be a well-wisher,
15:27 used to fill the wells with gold and silver.
15:31 He used to empty the wells before nightfall.
15:33 He used to distribute it among people.
15:34 Actually, people who do this,
15:37 are opposing their own desires.
15:43 I used to go to a saint.
15:46 I spent a lot of time with him.
15:50 One day, I went to him.
15:52 He asked me if I wanted to eat.
15:55 I said, "Yes, please".
15:57 He said, "No, I have cooked some paya."
16:00 I said, "Yes, please".
16:03 He extended his hand.
16:06 He picked up a vessel.
16:08 It had paya in it.
16:10 He said, "Eat it".
16:13 I said, "Yes, please.
16:15 I am very grateful to Allah for this.
16:18 I am very grateful to Allah for this.
16:20 Please eat it".
16:21 He said, "No, I don't want to eat it".
16:23 Although, the roti was in front of him.
16:26 He said, "I picked it up from the cupboard in front of you.
16:30 I kept it on the shelf.
16:33 I don't want to eat it".
16:35 I explained to him.
16:36 Because a faqir is a guest.
16:39 He was talking about hospitality.
16:42 Otherwise, the roti was in front of him.
16:45 I said, "No, sir. You eat it.
16:47 I am very grateful to you.
16:48 I have eaten it."
16:50 He said, "Allah knows that I don't want to eat it".
16:53 So, I went quietly.
16:57 He picked it up and put it back on the shelf.
17:04 He got up.
17:05 There was a tap next to it.
17:07 He filled a glass of water from the tap.
17:10 He ate the roti with the water.
17:14 He was lying on his bed.
17:18 This story is related to the desire of the soul.
17:27 You have the best blessing in front of you.
17:32 And the heart wants to eat it.
17:37 It is easy.
17:40 But you should leave the desire of the soul.
17:47 And eat the roti with the chili, chutney or water.
17:55 He was very famous in spirituality.
18:01 He came to my house.
18:04 It was time to eat.
18:05 I told him to eat with me.
18:10 He was a poor man like me.
18:14 He was at home.
18:16 He was cooking.
18:18 He was sitting on the table.
18:21 He was very happy to see me.
18:23 He said, "If a person invites someone, he should do this".
18:29 There are many blessings on the table.
18:33 But there was one problem.
18:39 I was surprised.
18:42 Usually, guests don't say this.
18:46 I said, "Please, I will serve you".
18:51 He said, "There is no mint chutney in it".
18:55 I didn't see it.
18:57 I said, "I am sorry, I will serve you".
19:01 I served him.
19:03 He said, "Now it is fun.
19:05 The feast is complete".
19:07 I told the other guests to start eating.
19:14 They started eating.
19:20 He picked up the chutney with a spoon.
19:23 He put the roti on his hand.
19:25 He put the chutney on it.
19:27 He ate it with great pleasure.
19:29 He said, "I enjoyed the feast".
19:31 The color of the Fakirs is that they don't let their ego take the lead.
19:39 You worship a lot.
19:45 Is there more pleasure and blessings in the state of Godas?
19:55 Worship is never for pleasure.
20:03 A person who worships to get pleasure is not worshipping God.
20:13 He is worshipping pleasure.
20:15 So, thinking that you didn't enjoy the feast, that you didn't get pleasure, is not appropriate.
20:26 Salah is for God.
20:28 But the other thing you said,
20:33 that the reward is more for the one who prays in sorrow and grief.
20:44 There, a person is like a small child who is afraid of something.
21:00 The intensity with which he clings to his mother's legs or father's legs,
21:07 has a lot of intensity, and a lot of helplessness.
21:14 When a person is very sad,
21:16 when he comes to God,
21:18 he has a lot of helplessness and intensity.
21:27 And that intensity is the real reward.
21:31 The intensity with which a person is inclined to God,
21:38 the intensity with which he turns to God,
21:41 the reward is as much as God.
21:45 I have a question.
21:50 I am a patient of depression.
21:53 I take medication for depression.
21:56 But the result is that I neither feel happiness nor sorrow.
22:01 So, how to get out of this state,
22:05 when I want to have peace and sadness in me.
22:09 First of all, I would like to say that
22:16 there is no contribution of depression in the state of sadness or happiness.
22:27 The medicines that we take are antidepressants.
22:32 This is because of that.
22:34 Because those medicines usually soothe the mind.
22:39 They give us a lullaby.
22:43 So, when a person's mind is asleep,
22:46 he does not feel such emotions.
22:53 Maybe because of my ignorance,
22:59 I am not educated.
23:02 I run away from these antidepressants.
23:08 I also tell people to stay away from them.
23:12 They do not end the depression.
23:15 They soothe the mind and kill your feelings.
23:19 I will tell you the best treatment for depression.
23:28 There are two Surahs of the Quran
23:34 which are the best treatment for depression.
23:37 One is Surah Duha and the other is Surah Hud.
23:45 The more you are in a state of depression,
23:52 you should recite it morning and evening.
23:55 In a short while, the depression will end.
23:58 We will have to stop here for a while.
24:01 We will come back after the break.
24:03 We will start this series from here.
24:06 Welcome back.
24:07 As you said, instead of taking antidepressants,
24:11 recite these two verses of the Quran.
24:15 It will be more beneficial.
24:17 This treatment in the Quran,
24:20 if a person feels a little depression for a while,
24:29 there are many questions related to depression.
24:32 Everyone feels like a patient of depression.
24:36 So, you should not take medicine for that.
24:39 I am not saying this.
24:42 I am talking about my own feelings.
24:49 I think antidepressants soothe the mind.
24:56 They are not a treatment.
24:59 They kill the feeling that the mind is asleep.
25:04 The mind does not have that feeling.
25:07 So, replace antidepressants with the words of God.
25:15 Surah Duha and Surah Hud are both very powerful antidepressants.
25:26 By reciting them, a person feels a strange happiness.
25:33 A feeling of happiness and joy.
25:40 This happiness and joy of depression is the enemy of depression.
25:51 A person goes into depression because he has to face what is happening in his life.
26:06 When he is not able to face it,
26:09 or he feels that he is not able to face it,
26:13 or he does not get the result of his efforts,
26:21 then he will go into depression.
26:24 The easiness of this is that a person should sit among people and have a conversation with them.
26:34 Or he should adopt a hobby.
26:39 I have continued this topic because of your question.
26:51 We have removed outdoor activities from our lives.
26:59 Not only do we not go towards games and hobbies,
27:06 but we do not allow our children to go there because we put pressure on them.
27:11 We tell them not to read.
27:18 We have this pressure all day.
27:22 I was saying this in my own words.
27:25 We want to see the textbook in the hands of our children.
27:31 We do not feel that we are ruining the personality of our children.
27:37 For the mental and physical health of our children,
27:42 it is as important to have a hobby as it is to read.
27:49 There should be a balance in this.
27:52 I do not mean that we should not study.
27:56 We should teach our children to read, but with a balance.
28:01 An outdoor game or a hobby where they can play with their children should be part of their life.
28:14 We have come a long way from our youth.
28:26 It is important for us to have a hobby or an outdoor activity.
28:41 If there is nothing else, we should sit in a gathering of friends.
28:47 We should attend all the family functions.
28:57 For example, weddings, marriages, and other functions.
29:05 We should participate in people's sorrows.
29:08 If a person is active in life, he will have less depression.
29:15 This is a question from Mehwesh.
29:21 She says that she feels tired and exhausted.
29:31 Is there a cure for this?
29:42 Obviously, everyone thinks of their own problems better.
30:01 There are two main reasons for this.
30:12 First, there is a lack of water intake.
30:15 Second, there is no time to sleep.
30:20 Usually, women stay awake late at night.
30:31 Third, there is no time to eat.
30:38 If we can control these three things, we can have a large amount of water.
30:51 Usually, 8 glasses of water is enough for a young person.
30:59 When we talk about water intake, there is a funny thing.
31:10 People say that they drink water in a water bottle.
31:28 This is a big lie.
31:32 It is a honest lie.
31:40 If you ask someone that they drink a lot of water,
31:48 they will say that they have a 500 ml water bottle.
32:08 This is a big lie.
32:18 This is a big lie.
32:31 I would like to make a request for women.
32:38 Women are used to drinking water from a water bottle.
32:46 Men also have water bottles, but women do not.
33:01 If you drink water from a water bottle, it will be around your mouth.
33:06 So, drink water from a glass whenever you want.
33:16 We will continue to answer your questions.
33:41 Thank you.