In this video, the narrator shares about 3 faces of the covert narcissist.
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00:00 Hi everyone and welcome back to another midweek video. Today I want to talk about
00:17 the three faces of the covert narcissist. Narcissists can be very predictable when
00:24 you come to understand how they think and view life. When it comes to how a
00:30 narcissist act or respond to situations you can just about know what they're
00:35 going to say and what they're going to do. The covert narcissist in particular
00:42 has only three options. I guess because they are extremists. They are nothing in
00:48 between. They are the good, the bad and the ugly. The three faces the narcissist
00:55 show are either the face of a hero, the face of a victim or the face of evil. We
01:03 already know they reserve the evil face for those closest to them. Whereas in
01:09 public they are either the hero or the victim and depending on the narcissist
01:15 they are sometimes more one than the other. Two of these faces are only masks
01:21 that they wear to manipulate people while one of them is their true face
01:27 which is the face of evil. But let's first look at the face of the victim
01:34 that the narcissist shows when it's convenient for them. But for some
01:40 narcissists this face is more of a permanent feature. I am talking about
01:46 those narcissists who use an illness or an unfortunate situation to keep seeking
01:53 narcissistic supply. For example those who may have a disability or an ailment
02:00 they make sure everybody knows about it and they use it to manipulate people to
02:06 feel sorry for them and to do things for them. They may also use it to appear
02:13 vulnerable and not at all dangerous or use it as an excuse to be miserable and
02:20 difficult. Their illness becomes the default go-to to excuse their behavior
02:27 or give excuses as to why they can't do something for you. They are happy playing
02:35 a victim for life because it allows them to get the attention they crave and to
02:41 never take accountability for their actions. Narcissists enjoy a good pity
02:47 party because they are receiving the empathy they crave from the people
02:52 around them. But aside from that some narcissists are just happy to play the
02:58 victim especially when they have empathetic people around them. They make
03:03 themselves look sad to get people constantly checking if they are okay and
03:08 even try to make them happy or they make a show of them having a low self-esteem
03:15 or not being happy with their appearance in order to get compliments. These
03:21 narcissists are very needy and constantly looking validation. And we
03:28 must not forget that narcissists would always prefer to be seen as the victim
03:34 than the villain. They would prefer to blame others for anything bad or
03:39 negative that happens. They would throw you under the bus to save their skin and
03:46 save themselves from critique. But these narcissists are happy to receive the
03:52 attention whichever way they can. And the face of the victim works very well as
03:59 they are not labeled as bad but more vulnerable. The second face the narcissist
04:07 is happy to wear is that of the hero or someone who is just a complete joy to be
04:13 around as they are usually quite entertaining and accommodating. They know
04:19 how to make people, the outsiders, feel welcomed, loved and appreciated. They are
04:27 always on hand when they need help or they always have a solution to their
04:32 problems. They can seem quite interested and caring and willing to do whatever it
04:38 takes to help others. Of course this is everyone else but those who are closest
04:44 to them as the covert narcissist is happy to put total strangers above you
04:51 and before you. The final face is that of evil. The lying manipulative creature
05:01 that is behind the mask. The face that they themselves are ashamed of and try
05:08 desperately to keep secret. The face of evil that wants to hurt others and get
05:14 satisfaction from seeing others in pain or failing. The face of evil that wants
05:22 control of everyone and everything and thinks success should only be theirs. The
05:30 face of evil that shows itself through those quick micro expressions and
05:36 sinister smirk. Their face of evil which is their true face which is hidden from
05:44 the world and reserved only for an unfortunate few. These are the three
05:51 faces of the covert narcissist. Two are only a mask and the darkest of all is
05:58 their true face. An ugly face of bitterness and hate. Nothing good about
06:06 the narcissist is real which is a sad unfortunate truth but the main reason
06:13 why we need to keep away from them. Okay that's it for today I hope you all found
06:21 this helpful. If you did be sure to click that like button. Also do leave me a
06:28 comment below. Have a blessed week everyone!
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