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15 Laws of Life That Turn a Boy Into a Man

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00:00 One, stop hoping for a completion of anything in life.

00:05 Most men make the error of thinking

00:08 that one day it will be done.

00:10 They think, if I can work enough, then one day I could rest.

00:14 Or, one day, my woman will understand something

00:18 and then she will stop complaining.

00:20 Or, I'm only doing this now so that one day

00:25 I can do what I really want with my life.

00:28 The masculine error is to think that, eventually,

00:31 things will be different in some way.

00:34 They won't.

00:36 It never ends.

00:37 As long as life goes on, man needs to learn

00:40 to feel the present moment

00:42 and not hope for an unknown future.

00:44 The challenge is to tussle, play,

00:48 and make love with the present moment.

00:50 Two, never change your mind just to please a woman.

00:58 If a woman suggests something

00:59 that changes a man's perspective,

01:02 then he should make a new decision

01:04 based on his new perspective.

01:06 But he should never betray his own knowledge

01:08 and intuition in order to please his woman

01:11 or go along with her.

01:14 Such an action will weaken both her and him.

01:17 They will grow to resent each other

01:20 and the crust of accumulated inauthenticity

01:24 will burden their love as well as their capacity

01:26 for free action.

01:28 Three, don't get lost in tasks and duties.

01:33 Whatever the specifics of a man's purpose,

01:37 he must constantly remind himself

01:39 of the danger of losing himself

01:41 in an endless list of tasks

01:44 and refresh the spiritual aspect of his life

01:47 through regular meditation and retreat.

01:49 Otherwise, he risks becoming a mere mechanical performer

01:54 of duties and routine,

01:56 which leads to a loss of meaning,

01:59 where inner freedom suffers.

02:01 A man must be able to stop, find internal depth,

02:06 and direct his attention to the essence,

02:09 not just superficial tasks.

02:11 Four, your purpose must come before your relationship.

02:18 Every man knows that his highest purpose in life

02:22 cannot be reduced to any particular relationship.

02:26 If a man prioritizes his relationship

02:29 over his highest purpose,

02:31 he weakens himself,

02:32 disserves the universe,

02:34 and cheats his woman of an authentic man

02:37 who can offer her full, undivided presence.

02:40 Five, live as if your father had died.

02:46 A man should love his father,

02:49 but be free from expectations and criticism from him.

02:53 A man needs to grow out of his shadow,

02:55 become himself,

02:57 and take responsibility for his decisions and actions

03:01 in order to be a free man.

03:03 Six, what she wants is not what she says.

03:11 Sometimes a woman will request her man in plain English

03:15 not to get him to do something,

03:18 but to see if he is so weak that he will do it.

03:22 In other words, she is testing his capacity

03:25 to do what is right,

03:27 not what she is asking for.

03:28 In such cases, if the man does what his woman asks,

03:34 she will be disappointed and angry.

03:36 The man will have no idea why she is so angry

03:41 or what could possibly please her.

03:44 He must remember that her trust is earned

03:47 not by him fulfilling her requests,

03:50 but by him magnifying love, consciousness,

03:54 and success in their lives in spite of her requests.

03:58 Seven, lean just beyond your edge.

04:05 At any given moment, a man's growth is optimized

04:09 if he leans just beyond his edge, capacity, and fear.

04:15 He should not be too lazy, happily stagnating

04:17 in the zone of security and comfort,

04:20 nor should he push far beyond his edge,

04:24 stressing himself unnecessarily,

04:27 unable to metabolize his experience.

04:30 He should lean just slightly beyond the edge of fear

04:34 and discomfort constantly in everything he does.

04:39 It is a process of self-discovery

04:42 where a man finds strength and wisdom in his own essence

04:45 and unlocks potential he had never even imagined.

04:49 Eight, trust nobody.

04:55 A man must be prudent, vigilant,

04:58 and able to recognize true intentions

05:00 before placing his faith.

05:02 Trusting someone blindly often leads

05:05 to disappointment and betrayal.

05:07 It does not mean completely isolating himself

05:10 or becoming cynical, but rather learning

05:14 to trust his own instincts and judgments.

05:17 It's about discerning who and what deserves his trust

05:21 and taking responsibility for his decisions.

05:24 Trust is earned, not given.

05:26 Nine, be willing to change everything in your life.

05:35 A man must be ready to dedicate everything to his purpose,

05:39 face or resolve the consequences of his past actions,

05:43 and then be willing to move on

05:45 from this particular way of life.

05:47 He must be capable of entering a period of uncertainty,

05:52 not knowing what to do with his life,

05:55 and waiting for a vision or a new form of purpose to emerge.

05:59 These cycles of specific action,

06:03 followed by periods of not knowing

06:05 what the hell is going on,

06:07 are natural for a man who is shedding layers of karma

06:11 on the way to realizing his potential.

06:13 10, she doesn't really want to be number one.

06:21 A woman sometimes seems to want to be

06:25 the most important thing in her man's life.

06:28 However, if she is the most important thing,

06:32 she feels her man has made her the number one priority

06:35 and is not fully dedicated or directed

06:38 to divine growth and service.

06:40 She will feel her man's dependence on her for his happiness,

06:45 and this will make her feel smothered

06:48 by his neediness and clinging.

06:50 A woman really wants her man to be totally dedicated

06:54 to his highest purpose and also to love her fully.

06:58 Although she would never admit it,

07:01 she wants to feel that her man would be willing

07:03 to sacrifice their relationship

07:05 for the sake of his highest purpose.

07:07 11, don't use your family as an excuse.

07:14 If a man never discovers his deepest purpose,

07:18 or if he permanently compromises

07:20 and uses his family as an excuse for doing so,

07:23 then his core and masculinity become weakened.

07:26 His woman loses trust in sexual polarity with him,

07:31 even though he may be putting much energy

07:34 into parenting and housework.

07:36 A man should, of course, be a full participant

07:41 in caring for children and the household.

07:44 But if he gives up his deepest purpose to do so,

07:47 ultimately everyone suffers.

07:49 12, don't ever chase after someone.

07:55 A man who constantly chases someone

07:59 often ends up with compromises and dependence,

08:02 which robs him of the freedom to be himself.

08:05 By pursuing someone and begging for attention,

08:09 a man diminishes his own value,

08:12 leading to a loss of self-worth.

08:14 True self-worth is found

08:17 when he starts prioritizing himself,

08:19 understands his own needs and values,

08:22 builds his life based on his beliefs,

08:25 and directs time and energy towards self-improvement.

08:31 13, you don't have to please everyone.

08:35 People like it when others give them positive feedback

08:40 and approve of their actions.

08:42 In reality, pleasing and trying to make everyone happy

08:46 only makes a man's life miserable

08:48 and attracts people who only want to use him

08:51 because they know that they will always

08:53 put their needs ahead of his own.

08:56 Everyone has things that they consider important to them.

09:00 If a man doesn't take time to determine

09:02 what is important to his life,

09:05 he will easily find himself swayed

09:07 to focus on what is important to others.

09:10 If we try to please everyone,

09:13 we will end up pleasing no one.

09:15 14, if you don't know your purpose, discover it now.

09:22 Without a conscious life purpose,

09:25 a man is totally lost,

09:27 drifting, adapting to events rather than creating events.

09:32 Without knowing his life purpose,

09:34 a man lives a weakened, impotent existence,

09:38 perhaps eventually becoming even sexually impotent.

09:42 In the end, he becomes a passive observer of his own life,

09:47 plunges into a deep emptiness,

09:49 and loses the ability to self-realization and inner growth.

09:55 15, nobody is coming to save you.

09:58 A man must learn to save himself,

10:02 and it has nothing to do with whether people like him or not.

10:06 They have their own lives to live.

10:08 One must come to terms with this and learn to live with it.

10:12 People will move in and out of his life,

10:16 and if he depends on them, he will be disappointed.

10:19 A man should be responsible for his own life.

10:23 Eventually, the best way to get your life

10:26 to where you want it to be

10:28 is to take control of your own destiny.

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