Beauty Influencer Aaliyah Jay Reveals If She’s Dating, What She Learned From Past Relationships

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00:00 outside of your business and social media.

00:03 You know, fans always wanna know

00:04 what's going on in Aaliyah J's love life.

00:06 I feel like you've been so good at balancing

00:09 between social media and your personal life,

00:11 and you mentioned that you want parts of your life

00:13 to be more private, but do you still have any updates?

00:15 You do look so happy, I must say.

00:17 (Aaliyah laughs)

00:19 - Oh my gosh, now we getting put on the spot.

00:22 (both laugh)

00:23 I love it.

00:23 Well, updates, let me see.

00:28 Okay, an update is that I'm very happy.

00:31 I really am happy.

00:33 I am dating someone exclusively,

00:37 and this is like the happiest I've really ever been.

00:40 Like, I don't have any drama, any problems.

00:43 Like, I'm happy.

00:45 - That's so great, I love that.

00:47 And was there anything that you learned

00:49 from your previous relationship

00:50 that made you do things different this time?

00:53 - Absolutely.

00:55 You know, it's easy to like blame the other person

00:59 and like say like, yeah, like I learned not to do this

01:03 and trust these people, but honestly, like the big,

01:07 like when it came down to it, I had to think,

01:12 I kept questioning myself, like what was all of that for?

01:15 You know, like this many years, why was I even there?

01:19 And the only answer that I can come up with

01:22 was to learn myself, because there was so many things

01:26 that I did not know about myself.

01:28 I learned so much about myself.

01:31 That moment was probably the moment I learned more

01:34 about myself than any other moment in my life ever.

01:36 And so I learned good and bad things.

01:41 I had to accept a lot of bad things about myself,

01:43 a lot of ugly things, but I also learned that, you know,

01:48 I can be a really trusting person

01:50 and I'm a really giving person.

01:51 And, you know, I love love.

01:53 And sometimes when I'm that, I'm being that person,

01:57 I kind of let my guard down a little too much

02:00 and that's my bad, you know, like that's really my problem.

02:04 And I have to learn to have boundaries

02:07 and I have to learn that there's just certain things

02:10 that I just won't accept in the future,

02:13 or, you know, there's just certain things that I want.

02:16 And so I really learned about myself

02:19 and it was the biggest lesson that I did not ask God for,

02:24 but he knew I needed it.

02:26 And so I'm really appreciative of that journey.

02:28 - I love that.

02:29 Yeah, like you did a lot of self-reflecting

02:32 and you grew and now here you are.

02:33 - Yes.

02:34 - That's amazing.

02:35 - Yeah.

02:36 - And you know, when you are like in the dating process,

02:38 'cause you're exclusive with someone now,

02:39 do you usually go on dating apps or it's more organically?

02:43 - Oh my gosh, it is so weird because being that I'm like

02:47 this huge popular person on social media,

02:50 it never works out that way.

02:52 Like dating on social media does not work out for me

02:56 because men have an idea of me already.

03:00 Like they think I'm like this super bougie person,

03:03 like you have to be spending this much money

03:06 to even talk to me.

03:08 And it's like, I understand the vibe that you're getting,

03:11 but like I'm a human

03:13 and I just want to be treated with kindness, you know?

03:15 Like what are you even talking about?

03:17 Like, so it never works out.

03:20 How I met my person was actually in person.

03:23 Like, yeah, it's so funny.

03:25 I actually spoke to him first and he caught my eye

03:29 and ever since then we just kind of just hit it off.

03:34 But other than that, I don't do dating apps.

03:37 I tried it and it just didn't work out.

03:40 Yeah, it didn't work out.

03:41 Social media, it's mostly in person for me.

03:46 - Oh, that's good, that's good.

03:48 You know, everyone has to do what works for them,

03:49 what they're comfortable with.

03:50 And what would you say like dating in your twenties

03:53 has been like overall?

03:54 Like...

03:55 (laughing)

03:56 - It was, I mean, I'm 29, so I'm at the end,

04:00 but dating in my twenties, oh my gosh.

04:02 Like, oh my God, that was crazy.

04:06 Like I done, I think I've met every type of guy

04:10 there has ever been.

04:11 And I think that's the part, like, you know,

04:15 where I learned the lesson is that I've already been

04:18 through this journey and now it's time for me

04:20 to take the stuff that I learned and apply it to my life

04:22 so that I don't have to go through this in my thirties.

04:25 It was really hard, you know, like when you're young

04:28 and you're in your twenties, like,

04:30 you don't even know what you want.

04:31 You don't even know yourself.

04:33 Like everyone thinks that they're gonna know their self

04:35 and they're gonna be married by 25,

04:37 I mean, some people are.

04:38 - Yeah.

04:39 - But it's not always realistic, you know?

04:43 - Right.

04:44 - So it was hard.

04:45 (laughing)

04:46 - And well, you're here now and you're very happy, so hey.

04:49 (laughing)

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