IJAMBO RYOSE_ Inama za Madamu Jeannette Kagame ku kurera abana bazahesha icyubahiro Imana n’Igihugu

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02:35 - Dear young leaders, congratulations

02:37 for achieving what you have, respectively.

02:41 I know that before me are servants of the country,

02:45 servants of God, entrepreneurs and skilled professionals,

02:50 artists and influencers, social justice advocates,

02:56 diligent friends and mentors,

02:59 and yes, young, loving parents.

03:04 One would wonder how you balance it all.

03:08 This reality gets more evident once you become a parent.

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03:20 There is perhaps no greater stake to your survival

03:31 and success than the lives that God allowed you

03:35 to bring to this world.

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03:39 Ladies and gentlemen, you asked me to have a conversation

03:43 with you on parenting today.

03:46 To put everything in context,

03:47 I wish to share two inspiring poems

03:51 that shed some lights on how complex raising children can be.

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04:03 There is no emotion compared to what you invoke,

04:16 no experience that comes near parenting you,

04:19 no journey I would rather take than by your side,

04:23 no adventure I would rather choose than to watch you grow.

04:28 You, my dear child, are my greatest teacher.

04:32 Through you, I learn how to love without control,

04:37 to care, take without possession.

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04:56 You may house their bodies but not their souls,

05:01 for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow

05:04 which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

05:09 You are the bows from which your children

05:13 as living arrows are sent forth.

05:16 We are chases the mark upon the path of the infinite

05:22 and he bends you with his might

05:25 that his arrow may go swift and far.

05:29 Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness

05:34 for even as he loves the arrow that flies,

05:38 so he loves also the bow that is stable.

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05:47 So dear guests, I suspect that you'll never

05:54 really know the strength that gets you through juggling

05:59 all that is required of you.

06:01 You just do because you must.

06:05 But what I know for certain is that along the way

06:10 you will question your choices and with reason.

06:13 What if you had done things differently?

06:16 What if there were a mode d'emploi,

06:18 as we say that could guarantee that your children

06:22 will never know pain?

06:24 Sadly, dear guests, this scripted guide

06:27 does not exist as of yet.

06:29 We draw strength from each other's candid, honest,

06:33 and brave sharing of our own experiences,

06:37 navigating through parenting without a mode d'emploi.

06:42 But it starts with us, ladies and gentlemen,

06:47 at every point.

06:48 It starts with your relationship with the other soul

06:52 to which you owe your existence as a parent.

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07:01 It starts with your home and its capacity

07:09 to cover your children in the love they need

07:11 to know their worth as God's creations in his own image.

07:20 Once more, young leaders, an exact how to do it all

07:24 and to do it well can be elusive.

07:27 Adding to what you might learn

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07:32 you wish to read it, I wish to share a few lessons

07:36 that have proven their effectiveness.

07:39 First, you must not push your children.

07:44 Don't be the force looming behind them

07:48 because pushing them down the path you believe

07:50 they should pursue.

07:51 Instead, pull, don't push, pull.

07:56 Be that pulling force into the fate you desire for them

08:01 by achieving this fate yourself.

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08:08 Allow me to repeat myself.

08:11 If you want success for your children,

08:13 endeavor to be successful yourself.

08:17 Show them that how attractive what you desire

08:20 for them actually is.

08:22 If you want happiness for your children,

08:25 strive to be happy yourself.

08:28 Perhaps this might require that you take things off

08:33 from your plate, that you allow yourself

08:36 to the same gentleness with which you peer

08:40 upon your own bundles of joy.

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10:44 So as the saying goes, success is when your children

10:51 want to be with you when they are adults.

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11:00 But young parents, unfortunately it's not enough

11:09 to be pragmatic in your parental choices.

11:12 Be here, can only emphasize how receptive your children are

11:16 and how your emotions, your frustrations, and yes,

11:19 your passions can become their own.

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11:27 So how do we embody the energy you wish for them

11:29 to experience at every turn of their lives?

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11:38 We picture one moment, what could become

11:40 of our world's future.

11:43 Should you forsake your roles as parents?

11:46 For once, let us not focus on the single parents,

11:50 particularly the single mothers.

11:52 Instead, let's talk about the drastic damage

11:56 that absent fathers do on their homes and children.

12:01 Let's talk about where we would be as a world

12:05 if we all chose to abandon or simply avoid our homes.

12:10 What if women and men both decided that the bar,

12:16 the streets, others' homes were more worthy

12:20 of their presence and time than the children

12:24 who look to them for the guidance and love

12:27 they need to develop healthily?

12:29 What would this world look like if it were

12:34 only made of poisonous habits, depression,

12:38 low self-esteem, trauma, and other problems

12:42 linked in psychology to absent parents?

12:46 Today, we revoke such a world through prayer

12:52 and by following our national values and vote choices

12:55 while also acquiring enriching parenting knowledge.

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13:02 That we call the rule of three eights.

13:05 Maybe a good place to start.

13:07 Splitting every day into three parts.

13:09 Eight hours of sleep, eight hours of hard work,

13:15 and eight hours shared across friends, family,

13:20 faith, health, hygiene, and yes, hobbies.

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13:31 Priorities, of course, all this has to be done.

13:35 Those responsibility to ensure that this joy

13:38 does not bleed into strains for those you love.

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13:47 Dear guests, sin is a tricky concept to truly confront.

13:51 After all, they seem so human.

13:54 Pride, greed, lust, gluttony, sloth, envy, wrath.

13:59 Isn't it scary that arrogance, selfishness,

14:04 promiscuity, excess, laziness, jealousy, and fury

14:08 are the primary offerings of a practice

14:11 that has been normalized and abusing the drink?

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14:26 Have we deluded ourselves into thinking that to sin

14:33 casually and habitually is harmless

14:36 so as long as it's tolerated by those around us?

14:41 It's not.

14:44 As earlier stated, your children are sponges.

14:48 They absorb your commitment to virtue,

14:51 wellness, and hard work as much as they may absorb

14:55 indifference and carelessness.

14:58 The true nature of our choices

15:01 will show themselves on our children.

15:04 As a wise person said, a lie does not become the truth.

15:11 Wrong does not become right, and evil cannot become good

15:17 just because it's accepted by the majority.

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15:23 Esteemed guests, fathers of daughters,

15:27 or of sons that may one day have their own,

15:31 may you treat the women that gave you

15:36 the blessing of parenting with the respect,

15:40 with the consideration, and with the love

15:44 that you would want for those for whom you care most.

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15:52 Know that their offering is the greatest of all,

15:58 and nothing can rival with what they have chosen to give you.

16:03 But also, young men, I must ask you to stop worrying so much

16:08 because worry is a thief of joy.

16:14 Do not let uncertainty about how and what you will bring home

16:19 hinder you from providing in the first place.

16:23 Remember, your valued contributions are not just financial.

16:28 They are emotional, they are spiritual.

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16:36 And to our young, dear young female leaders,

16:41 please refuse a life of purely enduring.

16:48 Know your worth is not in your ability to tolerate.

16:53 Your biology and ability to bear life

16:56 is not a sentence to an eternal soul responsibility

17:01 to advance the lives you have created.

17:04 Also, men and women nurture solidarity among all

17:10 to create fair and reasonable benchmarks

17:14 of what should be accepted in a marriage

17:18 and what should be fiercely opposed by society as a whole.

17:23 To the young couples, we wish you nothing

17:28 but joy and longevity.

17:30 We wish that you forever find yourselves in each other

17:34 through vulnerability, and this will require letting go

17:39 and having faith in your marriage, faith in each other,

17:45 faith for what God has in store for your home.

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17:54 As I end, I pray that in the future,

17:59 what you receive are filled cups

18:02 of nurtured and supported partners,

18:05 of inspired children who are taught the powers of love

18:09 from the heart of their home, their parents.

18:14 Rwanda Leaders Fellowship, your noble work

18:17 is a precious gift to us all.

18:20 Until the next time, may you remain touched,

18:24 inspired, and nourished by God's own light.

18:28 May God bless you all.

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