"I'm a 23-year-old relationship expert - women are investments and guys on a low salary shouldn't be dating"
- 10 months ago
A relationship coach says women shouldn't date men who "can't afford their lifestyle", guys on a low salary "shouldn't be dating in the first place" and women are "investments".
Karla Elia, 23, earns her living teaching women how to find the right man for the life they want - and believes "being treated right is the bare minimum".
She suggests women shouldn't be treated equally to men - because women's time is "more precious".
Karla claims many clients struggle to find their perfect man because they have the wrong mindset.
She insists the right man to go for is one with a "provider mindset" - who will give their partner the best treatment.
This including paying for all their dates before they're in a formal relationship and buying them gifts and flowers.
Controversially, she said men who can't afford a woman "shouldn't be dating in the first place" - because they must add value to a woman's life to be worthy.
She said there's no fixed salary a man needs to be earning before he should start dating - but it needs to be enough to afford his partner's expenses and needs as well as his own, whatever they may be.
Karla, from San Diego, California, US, said: "In my experience, women are scared of speaking their standards.
"They think there are no men like this out there - when actually there is a big pool of men with the provider mindset.
"To find these men, you have to step into the energy of 'I am worthy, I am healing, and I am not making decisions from a place of insecurity.'
"We shouldn’t be treated equal to men, we should be treated as women and we’re special, we should be treated as precious.
"A man needs to understand he has to be in a financial place to invest in a woman. We are investments.
"I know I can afford my lifestyle and if someone can't afford and add value to that, I would say 'thank you, next'."
Karla - who married her husband Dustyn Elia, 25, in May 2022 said the reason women don't find "high quality men" is down to their mindset.
She said Dustyn, who is currently transitioning career after six years in a high-ranking role in the US Navy, had no problems financially supporting her due to also having investments in the stock market.
Women need to adopt an "abundance" mindset, rather than a "scarcity" one, Karla says.
A "scarcity" mindset is a belief based on insecurity that there aren't many people out there that are right for you.
An "abundance" mindset is dating knowing your worth and not making decisions out of fear of rejection.
This is because Karla believes if you're on the hunt for someone to start a family with, women's time is "more precious".
Karla clarified a 'provider' man is not the same as a 'traditional man' who would want his wife to be a homemaker rather than working.
She says a provider is a man who "strives to be successful in every area of his life - and understands his woman will have her own goals".
Karla Elia, 23, earns her living teaching women how to find the right man for the life they want - and believes "being treated right is the bare minimum".
She suggests women shouldn't be treated equally to men - because women's time is "more precious".
Karla claims many clients struggle to find their perfect man because they have the wrong mindset.
She insists the right man to go for is one with a "provider mindset" - who will give their partner the best treatment.
This including paying for all their dates before they're in a formal relationship and buying them gifts and flowers.
Controversially, she said men who can't afford a woman "shouldn't be dating in the first place" - because they must add value to a woman's life to be worthy.
She said there's no fixed salary a man needs to be earning before he should start dating - but it needs to be enough to afford his partner's expenses and needs as well as his own, whatever they may be.
Karla, from San Diego, California, US, said: "In my experience, women are scared of speaking their standards.
"They think there are no men like this out there - when actually there is a big pool of men with the provider mindset.
"To find these men, you have to step into the energy of 'I am worthy, I am healing, and I am not making decisions from a place of insecurity.'
"We shouldn’t be treated equal to men, we should be treated as women and we’re special, we should be treated as precious.
"A man needs to understand he has to be in a financial place to invest in a woman. We are investments.
"I know I can afford my lifestyle and if someone can't afford and add value to that, I would say 'thank you, next'."
Karla - who married her husband Dustyn Elia, 25, in May 2022 said the reason women don't find "high quality men" is down to their mindset.
She said Dustyn, who is currently transitioning career after six years in a high-ranking role in the US Navy, had no problems financially supporting her due to also having investments in the stock market.
Women need to adopt an "abundance" mindset, rather than a "scarcity" one, Karla says.
A "scarcity" mindset is a belief based on insecurity that there aren't many people out there that are right for you.
An "abundance" mindset is dating knowing your worth and not making decisions out of fear of rejection.
This is because Karla believes if you're on the hunt for someone to start a family with, women's time is "more precious".
Karla clarified a 'provider' man is not the same as a 'traditional man' who would want his wife to be a homemaker rather than working.
She says a provider is a man who "strives to be successful in every area of his life - and understands his woman will have her own goals".