AFTER over 25 years as husband and wife, this couple have renewed their vows as two wives after Lacey transitioned from male to female. Both coming from conservative backgrounds, Lacey, 50, and Cindy, 55, met 28 years ago when Lacey was living as a man and serving in the military. Lacey has been struggling with her gender identity for years, but Cindy had no idea until Lacey actually came out in 2018.