The longest, deepest, most important love affair you’ll ever experience is the one you have with yourself. But for most of us, the idea of “loving ourselves” seems kind of selfish or egotistical. We think it’s better for us to direct our love outward rather than inward.

But when we don’t fully love ourselves, it becomes easy to slip into a negative mindset. We tell ourselves that we’re not worthy, that we’re not good enough or smart enough to deserve the life we want. And we stop ourselves from taking chances or trying new things, by telling ourselves that any effort we make will only end in failure.

In this video Jack Canfield gives you 5 tips to build your self-esteem.